I have been called a loner before. And I do like being alone, but I always attributed that to being the only child.
I also love being with friends as well. I would prefer being with friends over being alone. But I would prefer being alone to having to make small talk with strangers or acquaintances even.
Yeah that's the order:
I am an ISTP, btw.
For me, I just get bored easily when people (strangers or people i am not interested in knowing) small talk. It sounds snobbish (and I don't mean to be). I try to look interested and I am always polite. But I am sure people can see that I am really thinking, "I would rather be doing something else right now."
I'm not sure if you can relate, but I think there is a misconception that Extroversion is conducive with a constant need to be around people. Instead I argue that Extroversion means deriving and expressing ideas for, and within an observable reality.
I would agree with this.
A reason why I brought this up is actually because I know a lot of Introverts (IXFX types especially) who seem to strongly dislike the idea of being independent and truly alone.
However, the reason why I would call them Introverts is because they are very selective about who they hang out with. They do not treat all people the same but rather are extremely open with their friends and extremely reserved around strangers. These are not people you think of when you describe a loner.
Something else I noticed is that Introverts do everything in their power to not engage in group conversations. I have some Introverted friends and I often find if we all get together that it turns into many one-on-one conversations happening at once- no one else seems to care about what the others have to say but rather what is going on in the specific conversation. I thought I was simply less socially assertive than many of the Introverts I know but I simply see that it is more so a desire to have less people in a conversation as possible..
I would say that Extraverts would get more pleasure from leading others and making things happen than Introverts.
My closest friends in college are probably those of my fraternity but besides that I have a lot of acquaintances here and there who I talked to on a regular basis last year and still see some of them often. They don't know much about me but we can talk about a wide range of topics with ease.
I'm scared of intimacy and don't think I can ever actually achieve the overpowering intimacy that many others take pleasure in.
I'm the friendliest loner I know. I'm not very lonely or "alone" per se, I just don't feel very attached to more than a couple people. To others, I'm friendly, but only to a point, as a way of drawing invisible boundaries. I don't feel the need to become extremely close to many people, though I like having options.
well, now i´m doing now social service in a home for handicapped people (instead of military service ) ... i study law and will propably try to finish it... still very unsure if its the right path i have chosen, anyway i´m a good planner but not a great finisher i would say ( but i have to learn to finish...)... do you think law is good for such INxP types like
back to the topic: not so surprisingly i m a friendly loner too ... its quiet interesting that people often see/ judge or percieve me in very different ways: from egoistic, lazy, unfocused, (socially akward propably too) to a deep, intelligent person...
but yesterday at this home where i "work" there was a 5- year old child from a therapist. At the end of the day the child seemed was really bound to me and liked my friendlyness. The day after his mother told me that her child is bullied because of his darker skin colour and he is always searching for friendly people with whom he can become friends...
Ti- Ne- Si- Fe
Te- Ni-Fi- Se
Intrapersonal with Logical- Mathemathical I.
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