You drained him of his essence, leaving behind nothing but an empty husk. You removed his tiny heart, putting it in a locket that you like to take out from time to time to look at and smile fondly.
Yes?
She's a Skeksis?
What the hades is wrong with us...I can't even stand that I'm this way...and yet I am. I'd like to be a cool calm Ms about love and I can't help the intensity. I gotta find myself the man who makes me feel like the Anais quote...WHERE THE HECK IS HE!!!! :steam:
I've felt it, but they just didn't stay. That's nothing that can be controlled.
Really... if you are looking for that kind of man, probably not best to look among the INTPs. Sorry, animenagai.
Yes, I just don't think 95% of the INTPs can give you that.
Explain.
The INTP is a detatched observer. Making enormous demands is out of the INTP wheelhouse.
Detached observer, in ideology. I stand four-square to that assertion. Try as you might, if you ever have the misfortune of falling for ENFJ, just try to stay on the fringe. I defy you. I defy your 'science', your 'detachment', your 'objectivity'. Once the catalyst hits your surface, kiss your ideology good-bye. Everything will burn away and take new shape. Go ahead. Try and stop it. I can't stop it either.
I don't like turbulent romantic relationships, nor do I think that I'm a turbulent person.
I'm turbulent. I can't help it. I really can't.
I don't know what's wrong with me. I've been this way from the word 'go'. I don't go out for turbulence, but - I don't know. It's a point of deep sadness and mortification for me. Maybe you have to feel some measure of safety to be calm? To stop bucking? I'm trying to learn. But even on my good days, when I'm all right, I'm still feeling the lava moving around under the skin. My sisters and friends say I'm a wild animal and always will be. Is that bad? Because I can't turn it off.
I recoil from people because I don't want to exhaust them. That would destroy something in me.
Pink, I have a question: It seems like your relationships with these guys suffered an abrupt ending. How do you think they would've played out if they naturally ended?
Most likely badly, especially the drug addict. Fate stepped in because I was too stupid to draw my hand back out of the fire. Too stupid. When the cosmos steps in to pull you apart, you have problems.
I generally feel like I am (will be) unfair to whatever woman I am in a relationship with. I just don't have a lot to give emotionally... an ear to talk to, a shoulder to lean on, not being judgmental in most circumstances... but thats about it.
What's wrong with that? You don't have to go through her emotions with her. You just have to listen, to be there for her. Asking you to be something you're not accomplishes nothing at all, Y. I liked my INTP ex-bf *because* he didn't get jacked up. He listened in silence, and I knew I had his ear. He didn't have to announce it. I knew he cared because he listened. I knew he cared because he stayed over when I was just out of the hospital and alone. I knew he cared when my phone got cut off and bills were going unpaid because we were broke and he stepped in and helped us. I knew he cared when he went out at 10pm to find my mortally ill sister vitamins and then drive an hour to my house, only to sit with her awhile to make her laugh before he left.
THAT's how I know.
Sometimes the demands are put-on without realizing it. I used to drive my X-fiance crazy for reasons I never fully understood. Something about being busy/preoccupied with work/school/hobbies. The weird thing is she seemed to like that. The more I tried to do what she actually asked, and spent more time with her, the more she lost interest. I guess I became too little of a challenge.
That sounds immature on her part. Granted I don't like being up in anybody's business and vice versa, but that doesn't sound like what was meant.
yeesh, calm down i didn't say INTP's were necessary smarter or whatever. as NT's they prize logic over all else. all i said was that ENFJ's are often smart so INTP's respect that. why the anger?
It's the overarching "INTPs are smarter" talk that I've kinda lost patience with, not you. I sincerely apologize for my tone.
No, she isn't. I think the distinction between soul mate and mind mate is fine at best and completely open to personal interpretation. Her statement seems to imply that feelers speak only one way about heart matters and that's simply not true. We have a "mode", yes, but to throw a blanket over it is oversimplification.
. most of the INTP's i've met don't really look geeky at all. this is personality after all, doesn't have too much to do with looks. i like INTP's because the I means they're self motivated (it's where you get your energy from), NT for the previous reasons and P because it means they're willing to dwell on the question and explore different alleyways and not just shut them off immediately. once again, i'm not saying that INTP's are necessarily smarter than another as individuals but i think that earning for intelligence must count for something.
