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    an introverts "battery" is charged by being alone etc etc whereas an extraverts "battery" is charged by being out and about and social etc etc
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    If something interests me I can talk must as much as any extrovert.
    Something that interests me normally means someone that has engaged and then seemed receptive (this is important) to my Ne. This seems much more likely to happen when there are fewer people, in groups I tend to withdraw into myself.

    My husband (INTP) doesn't talk near as much as me, even in those situations. He does talk a lot with me (very fun Ne back and forth conversations), but I haven't seen him do this with anyone else.

    I have noticed that getting tipsy makes both of us more talkative and seems to engage our Ne.

    Sometimes we will watch a movie while having some brandy and my (and his) Ne can really go into overdrive. I have to have the remote handy because something in the movie will trigger some thought, I'll pause it, tell him, and we'll sit there excitedly going off on tangents until we remember we're supposed to be watching something, push play... and then the cycle repeats.
    The conversations are always way more fun than the movie.

    Another example of an introvert talking a lot is my mother-in-law.
    I think she's an ISFJ, and she can talk and talk and talk...at least to me and my husband. She's the sort that if you call her on the phone, you know it's not going to be a short phone call. She absolutely does not realize this about herself though, and would be quite mortified if anyone mentioned it to her! (Probably because she always complains about this in her mother )
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    Generally, yes, more extraverts are going to be talkative given that they are fueled by the external. However, that doesn't mean that an introvert (that is fueled by the internal) is not going to talk alot, the ideas and thoughts and observations made by the introvert need to be expressed or they are worthless.

    As a general rule, introverts listen more while extraverts talk more.

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    Talkative times..
    When it interests me..
    When I'm getting good feedback..
    Around friends..
    Around friendly people..
    Around dogs... (don't ask)

    Not talkative times..
    In negative atmospheres..
    When confused..
    When really thinking...
    Just after work..
    First thing in the morning and last thing at night..

    (I think that about covers it)

    I'd suggest that how "chatty" you are also relates to your self confidence.
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    I would say that I am capable of being very talkative.
    Thoughts come to me quickly and I don't have a problem with large groups- in fact, it makes things less personal which I'm often more comfortable with- as long as I'm not with uber-assertive people, I can play my role in social situations.

    However, something that stops me from doing so often is a deep social anxiety. I don't think, "Oh crap, I have nothing to say to this person.".. I think, "Should I say it? I don't want this person to dislike me for something I didn't bring upon him or her deliberately.. damn it, I'm so awkward and weird around everyone. I need to think of a good way to mitigate my response..."
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    Well, I know an ESFP who is quite taciturn... who'd have thought it eh? He's in his 60's now, though a very young sort since he never had kids and kept very fit, he's fitter than I am at half his age, he does a lot of socializing, he's always busy busy busy, has zillions of friends and yet... yet... he never really talks to any of them! Very odd...

    I know an INTP though, who never shuts the fuck up. I mean he literally NEVER shuts up. He's a total bore as well. Just rambles on and on about his pet subject (geology, like anyone relates!!). And he always talks in big long words and fancy phrases - not that I've anything against a good vocabulary you understand, it's just that he talks as if he's reading from a fantasy novel if you know what I mean? Like someone says "dude, this sauce is ace!" and I say "yeah it's not too sweet like the other brand" and he'll say "yes, I adore the way it unfolds upon the tongue like a bud opening to the touch of a bee's kiss in June" or something.

    I also know an ISTJ who totally dominates all roleplaying games and doesn't let anyone else talk, ever.

    There was a long phase in my life during which I didn't say much, mainly because my social skills were for shit and I didn't know how to get along in a group so I just stayed quiet since usually when I said anything it was wrong. To this day I often sorta set myself a mission before a particular social encounter, to keep my mouth shut and say as little as possible. It's harder now though, gets harder and harder as time goes on... the drive to externalize, the things that come into my head, the questions that I NEED to ask... if I'm in a situation where there are people around and for some reason talking is not permitted or just talking BY ME is either not permitted or just not advisable (like I don't have anything to add, they're talking about shit I don't relate to) I leave the place feeling exceedingly bottled up, frustrated and just soooo down. The only antidote is to invite my ISTP friend around and over a few beers we'll talk and rant and laugh and check stuff out [details deleted lol] and by 3am I feel soooo much better!

    Although I'm very talkative, I HATE monologuing. Hate it, passionately. I only talk because I want the other person to talk back. I love conversations. I don't just love the sound of my own voice and I'm not trying to get attention or impress people like these guys do. I talk because I want to hear YOU talk back, I'm interested in you.
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    Quote Originally Posted by substitute View Post
    and he'll say "yes, I adore the way it unfolds upon the tongue like a bud opening to the touch of a bee's kiss in June" or something.
    But... but that's awesome!

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    Quote Originally Posted by sciski View Post
    But... but that's awesome!
    No it's awesome done tongue in cheek or just now and again, but when someone talks like that all the time and there are definite hints of 'praise me for my large vocabulary' or perhaps 'I never got out of character again at the end of the last LRP festival', it's just bloody annoying.
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    Kung fu is the answer. *nods sagely*

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    Quote Originally Posted by sciski View Post
    Kung fu is the answer. *nods sagely*
    YES! Kung fu is the answer! Finally, someone else agrees with me.


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