Relationships have normal ebbs and flows. They do not automatically get better and better when the participants learn more and more about each other. Instead, the participants have to work through the tensions of the relationship (the dialectic) while they learn and group themselves and a parties in a relationships. At times the relationships is very open and sharing. Other time, one or both parties to the relationship need their space, or have other concerns, and the relationship is less open. The theory posits that these cycles occur throughout the life of the relationship as the persons try to balance their needs for privacy and open relationship. Interpersonal Communication Theories and Concepts Social Penetration Theory 1 Social Penetration Theory 2 Social Penetration Theory 3
To maybe nit-pick (or at least to pick a very single thing of your link): that Benziger, as compared to Lenore Thomson, seems to talk only about Si ('basal left'), Fi ('basal right'), Te ('frontal left') and Ne ('frontal right'), throwing things on a single pile, where there are more differences in Thomson's model (that I think do more justice).
Now let me think, could this say something about her possible type? Yeah it does, she might very well be Si-Ne and Te-Fi herself, which can be ESTJ, INFP, ISTJ, ENFP.
Seems she's only taking it partially (In my quick analysis).
And, if you're reading Jung's Psychological Types just remember he was an analyst and a lot of it was derived from his work with people with various neuroses. Myers and others in contrast wrote on healthy people
Hey Haight, yeah - I haven't been around in a while.
I closed down my startup (after 4 years) a few months ago and I've been scrambling to figure out what to do next with my life. I think hanging out on mbti forums, reading magazines, getting drunk and watching movies will have to suffice for a while or until my funds run out.