Manipulation and Type
The Constant Victim- ESFJ, ISFJ, INFJ, ESFP, ISFP
The major factor in many cases are those with strong Fe. With this, the “victim” is actually the perpetrator and at times, they might not even know that this is what they’re doing. But since Fe will have a user going by the mood in the room, if they’ve read their person of interest’s feelings as negative toward them, their way of turning things around is that you did this to them.
The ESFP and ISFP go off of their Fi will which normally guide them with what they believe to be right or wrong but here, everything is made sense by believing (or just playing) they’re the victim. If it gets them out of a “hostile” situation, they’ll do it.
One-Upmanship Expert- ESTJ, ESTP, ENFP, NTs
Strong Te users types are intent on displaying what they know. This often turns every interaction into a chance for them to display what they know, even if it’s holding onto information until they tell it to someone else. Point being? They’ll always know more. This twisted way of using their Te possibly stems from their love of organizing and constructing but ends up only constructing their own ego.
The more extraverted types have an obvious love for people but this This could easily turn into the mind games no one else is interested in playing. The Ne of the ENTP and ENFP will have them seeing the other side of a conversation which could easily turn into an argument while the ESTP has the desire to win (everything) due to their in-the-moment Se and their analytical Ti.
Powerful Dependent- ISFJ, INFJ
These are types that are less likely to show themselves to the world as the people they are but bring friends into them. And once the person has their circle, it becomes easy to manipulate those that already see you as weak. Why? Because if they let their weak and powerless friend down, the fault must be their own; how could it be the weak person’s fault?
The INFJ and the ISFJ may be more prone to this behavior due to their way of having only a small group that they care to interact with, and if things get sticky, it’s more likely to go this route. Outright saying the manipulating things can only work if stronger personalities aren’t around.
Triangulators- ISTJ, ESTJ, INTJ, ENTJ
Why would these Te users be more likely of this behavior? Their preference for Te will also have them going off of a “majority rules” attitude. As in, if it’s established by the majority, it must be right. So if this person gets others on their side, you’re going to feel like a complete idiot if you don’t agree and who wants to feel like that? “Nobody does. So agree with me.” says the triangulator.
The Blasters- ESFP, ESTP, ISTP
Any type that just wants people to leave them alone may do this, i.e., anybody. But what makes these types more likely to engage in this type of manipulation is their Se. Since it has the user living in the moment, they won’t think twice to not scream, hit, whatever; just to get you off their back.
They don’t want to get down to of the core of the issue and have their problems brought to light, they’d rather just intimidate you into leaving them alone.
The Projector- ESFJ, ESFP, ESTP, ENFP, ENFJ, ENTP
See the trend here? Everyone can be guilty but it’s the image-conscious extraverts that especially won’t want to be seen as flawed- that would hinder any plans they have for the future that will undoubtedly involve people to some degree or another. And these types are more likely to want to be seen in the very specific light that they choose.
The Deliberate Misinterpreter- ISFJ, INFP, ENFP
The introverted types here may do this in an effort to make a rival look bad, thinking that if they look bad, by proxy, the manipulator will look good. The extraverted version of this is more like to do this to get what they want. While one’s goal is to feel better about themselves, the others’ is to achieve a goal wherein they attain something, even if it just means a better deal.
The Flirt- All SPs, ESFJ, ENFP
With these types, the goal isn’t actually to make you feel good when they don’t want a relationship but to make themselves feel better by having you want them. SP types are likely to go this route of manipulation because their Se has them drawn toward the the immediate.
ESFJs that engage in this behavior are more likely those that went from playing the field and dating around to just having fun at the expense of someone else. ENFPs on the other hand often can’t make up their minds in relationships which can lead to toying with others and never making an actual connection with anyone.
The Iron Fist- ISTJ, ESTJ, INTJ, ENTJ
Seems a little obvious doesn’t it? Te has to have it their way or no way, so get out of their way if you’re not going to listen. The positive things about Te users is their direct and efficient organization. The problem can be that they want to use you like a trash bag until they’ve chosen to discard you.
How is this manipulation and not just plain bullying? Nothing you do can ever be good enough, so many others hope to “please” the Iron Fist to be the one that does things right; never taking into account that the manipulator isn’t right either. Plus, they make you feel like crap about yourself.
The Multiple Offender- All and any types
There is no specific type that’s more likely to use all of these manipulation tactics in the same way that being a manipulator is subject to one type. So while some types are more likely to lean toward certain styles, anybody can be a manipulator. Watch out!