If I'm stressed badly enough I self-medicate.Sooooo it seems you are a blamer. What then, do you DO about it?
I'd say I do a little of both, blame and rationalize. But I blame myself, or rather, I take responsibility for allowing myself for that person or that thing to stress me out. Obviously if I was a being tortured in a black site or holed up in Guantanamo Bay, placed in a dog cage and exposed to god knows what kind of psychological torture, I wouldn't be blaming myself.
But even in that situation blaming isn't really that useful. It can identify the cause, but you're still responsible for what to do next (in that situation there's pretty much nothing you can do).
I find that when I'm in peak physical condition, I can handle just about anything (probably not waterboarding). From melodramatic girlfriends, to bosses or clients trying to micromanage me. God I hate that shit.
And I sometimes let loved ones stress me out, to a point (and rarely), because I'm invested in them and can't just say, "fuckkk offf! get out." Ha, although I have said that.
Then on the rationalization side, I may be stressed over some project, so I think "Well I better do NOTHING else until this is done." But the reality is, if I got on the treadmill for 20 minutes or some other exercise, I'd feel a lot more relaxed and approach the project with a clearer head.