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    Senior Member Ene's Avatar
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    First, I seek to avoid drama, second, to be the diplomat. If that fails (it usually doesn't), then I use well placed words to deter and dissolve it. Fourth, I call a spade a spade and warn with the "do you really wanna go there" shot. If all peaceful attempts fail, I turn into the Hulk and smash it.
    A student said to his master: "You teach me fighting, but you talk about peace. How do you reconcile the two?" The master replied: "It is better to be a warrior in a garden than to be a gardener in a war." - unknown/Chinese

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    noʎ ɟo ǝʇnɔ ʍoH Mademoiselle's Avatar
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    INTJ will ignore, duh
    ENTJ will either create it or cut it.
    ENTP will play around and enjoy it.
    INTP will study it IF they care somehow.
    Feelers will get killed, JK they usually over react
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    "Why are you mad at me?"

    "What did I do wrong?"

    And then I'll be mad that they're mad at me.
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    Two options: shut up and keep quiet and wait for it to die down on its own. Or i get pissed and shut the entire thing down by having an even bigger reaction to the stupidity of it.

    I try not to do the second, but I can't always help myself.

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    I personally hate drama; people say things that cause each other to take them personally, and then through their reactions can sabotage each other. It's just an unnecessary mess that could've been avoided if people had just been honest and not taken things personally to begin with.

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    Completely depends on the drama.

    If it's stupid and/or irrational drama: "Maybe you should just be direct with them. Seems like your problem would go away pretty quickly if you would be up front about your concerns." (the benefit of this is that it leads to one of two good options: 1. they take my advice and the drama ends, or 2. they stop talking to me about the drama because they know I have no patience for it)

    If it's flat-out harmful drama that comes from misinformation: "You're actually completely wrong about that, because of X and Y, and I don't think what you're doing is fair to anyone involved." (or potentially something much harsher than this)

    If it's legitimate/reasonable drama: "Oh god oh god what do I do. Feelings. Okay. Show empathy. Where's the empathy button? Uhhh. Shit."
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    I must admit creating a little drama once in a while could increase the intensity of a relationship (sx)

    I can admit a little drama if the person is looking to make me hear what I was unconsciously refusing to hear.
    ALL THAT WE SEE OR SEEM TO BE IS BUT A DREAM WITHIN A DREAM

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    I try to calm down situation. Once that is done I try to reduce problem to logic and find workable solution.

    However I would dare to say that people around me try to hide drama. I am presuming this is because they are afraid of my judgment that can be too honest, but quite calm in most situations.
    I have noticed that many people act much more open and dramatic when I am not around. (at least when they think I am not around)

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    With deflective humor and distance.

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    By not taking sides, but rather trying to find the core argument from the both sides and try to find a compromise in which neither party gets to be the moral superior. Also by forecasting where the current course of drama is taking both parties and making it clear to them. This is actually what I just did in case involving my wife and one of her acquintances. I told my wife: "You can either win this argument, or retain neutral terms with her, but you can't have both. Which one you'll take? What do you have to gain in this argument? And what do you have to lose in this argument? I will support your choice, even if I do not agree with it."
    "The present is theirs; the future, for which I have really worked, is mine."
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