"I feel so consistent internally (not speaking if moods) that I don't see how they get that impression."
I do remember an INFP (he was interested in MBTI) having diner with me. I felt very attracted by his mind and curiosity.
But after dessert, I found something was really nevrotic and so much lagging in my own logical universe.
It is probably just my point of view, and from inside, I am sure he was feeling consistent....
"ExTPs can be better at noting my potential or perceiving my persona than ExFPs, but I bond better with ExFPs."
I don't think I've crossed so many INFP, even less some of them who could try to know themselves with MBTI Tool.
I could see his potential as well as read some obvious neurosis.
Then my strong need for understanding right and fast + him lacking frankness made us take different ways...
+ He seemed to love being right on what was only his feelings, and not "universal truths".
Understanding is one thing, "bond better with" is indeed very different...
So I'm not so good at reading INFP yet.
Next time I have diner with an INFP I order a full bottle of (my favourite)wine. I'm not hopeless
However, I'd rather be careful "my wine" is not his favourite too...
This INFP was really focused on his deep feeling without revealing them, therefore jumping to strange conclusions.
Seems the poor ENTP I am needs a drink or more to focus on inner worlds and her own neurosis