...During dinner today...
My seeminlgy ESTJ/ENTJ sister told me that she believes she is ISFJ...
Do I not know anything about MBTI? How is it possible that a bossy, competent, and assertive person be ISFJ? Am I stereotyping too hard?
I asked her why she thinks that. She didn't have time to answer me fully, but she said that she took a test. She didn't say that the test was official or not, but she said that as soon as she found out she was ISFJ, she joined a forum where people who are ISFJs post their issues. Then I was all... "that's it?!" and then she was all "BUT I AM NURTURING!"
...So that's why she's ISFJ?! Yeah, she is nurturing in the sense that she is helpful. I tend to go to her for advice about practical things like how do I secure a research position at my university, how should I approach a job search, how should I handle a credit card or buy an apartment. She always has advice to give me.
She's also better than me at working with people. My dad says that she is more skilled at interacting with people so that she gets what she needs while being socially pleasant at the same time. My mom notes how she is more interactive with people (even if it interferes with homework a little bit). During her undergraduate days she would spend a lot of time with people smarter than her (streets and academic intelligence) so she could learn from them and improve her intelligence. She sees the value in networking and gives me tips on how to do it better. She also knows the value in sounding sure of yourself when one is in the corporate world. Just yesterday, she told me that I need to learn to sound more confident because people like confident people. And yes, to me, my sister is very confident and can pick herself up after mistakes. She is not like her twin who will call to complain about how much of failure she thinks she is.
She's very much on "top of her game," in my opinion. What I mean by that is that when she wants something (like buying a car or whatever) she gets all the information she needs quickly and efficiently to make the best choice. She doesn't like to dilly dally like I do and usually knows how to get a job done or at least knows how to find the answer to get a job done.
I know that she enjoys learning about things like how the economy works (she has a small phase in college where she was interested in getting books to learn more about money and she even bought a book that taught people how to be successful). I talk to her about life planning. She's always been like this. When I was in fifth grade, we'd talk about how she'd like to design her future home when we watched shows about houses. She likes to dress smart too. She likes to buy clothes that are timeless and will look good for a long time, so she tries to get things with no prints on them so it won't ever go out of style. Same thing with electronics. She tries to be smart about them too, buying GPSs that will last a lifetime and have any feature you'll ever need. I see her very practical and enjoys keeping up with the world.
I guess I should keep in mind that I don't think she has ever studied MBTI the way I have (it's extremely likely that she's never studied it at all... and all she did was take a test), so maybe she doesn't really know what ISFJ really means. It's also possible that I don't really know my sister despite living with her for 20+ years, but maybe it's possible that after more than 4 years of studying MBTI... I still know absolutely nothing about it!
...plus, I wanted to be the special one in the family and be ISFJ =/