No worries, happy to clarify. Let me put together something more specific - might be later this evening.
The gist of it though, bottom-line, is what can people do to help in these types of situations - what can INFJs do to help themselves (and what can their type-mates do) and what can other types bring to the table to help de-escalate yet validate the INFJ and assist them in discussion or to articulate (in a reasonably cogent timeframe) what the issue is.
Because frankly, look at the baggage that's being brought back up in here about Pe yet again. That's years worth of time of processing with progress at about the rate of a snail leaving a slime-goo trail across Canada. That's not realistic in an environment geared towards mortality. It does formulate a portion of why some INFJs drive people nuts. 'Cause by all means, let's have a grievance that needs years worth of time to process so that we never talk about it directly, but can be used to poke and poke for all of that time. It is very hurtful (eta I'd go so far to say at this point it is actually abusive, sanctioned abuse at that).
I'm looking for the win-win solution-wise. Otherwise I be riding on my horse and gunslinging (figuratively speaking) my way across the desert.
Okay, yes, thanks... I understand what you're saying now. But I honestly don't know what to do either and share the frustration. I mean, it's frustrating from my end to be sorta characterized as an individual (I know you're not only directing your comments towards *me* but I'll just write in this way since I'm only addressing my personal experience at the moment) that's just "pokin for the hell of it". I mean, it's very confusing to the point a short stint in the state farm may in fact be very soothing for me... because all I can hear is "you are hurting me by trying to get me to stop hurting others".
No, I understand the frustration and am temporarily out of ideas.
Through every forest, above the trees
Within my stomach, scraped off my knees
I drink the honey inside your hive
You are the reason I stay alive