...as an ENTJ the desire for leadership has always troubled me the most, i have always rebelled against it, and hate the thought of any position of leadership.
i have never even nominated for a school council position, for example...regardless of how many people suggest that i should...
i just never see myself as a "leader"
and yet control seems to come naturally...i need it, and when i don't have it...look out :P
for the most part i have some excellent friends who know how to deal with me, and my particular needs.
and INFJ in particular, practically my polar opposite, and yet we seem to understand each other. for this reason, we have a great relationship.
however, the relationship that demonstrates my control is that with my girlfriend. as an ENTP she is the most scarily spontaneous and out of control person i have ever met. and i am constantly in a state of confusion, and never know where i stand.
and you know what, I LOVE IT! i love not having the control, coz i have it in every other part of my life. the greatest attraction for me is the fact that she is teaching me how to let go of all that ENTJ control, and be happy without planning every single waking moment of my life!
and its good, coz i love that!
as ENTJ we don't plan because we want to plan,
we plan coz we NATURALLY HAVE TO DO IT!
AND WHEN WE DON'T, WE IMMEDIATELY BEGIN TO FEEL THE WORLD CRUMBLING!