Whenever I catch myself saying that about a person, it seems that I've found an ENTJ. I use Bastard/Bitch as a compliment, in the sense that they can rip right through people's bullshit as bluntly as possible with no remorse and explain why your wrong with such precision that you swear you just watched a grammy winning performance of a lawyer open up a can of whoopass on someone.
ENTJs are great. I know two of them. One is going to Berkeley Law and the other my girlfriend. I think ENTJs are stereotyped just as bad as INFPs e.g. ENTJs are incapable of caring for people as INFPs have to be overly emotionally sensitive. The ability to effectively facilitate and communicate with people their ideas into a logical, yet organized system, at least to me, is something I wish I could do. ENXJs are like the TMNT Leonardo: leads the turtles, follows splinter's plan, acts methodically, etc. Everyone hates the "Leonardo" of the group of friends, but still plays a vital role in the makeup of the group i.e. all species play a unique role, yet a part of a much larger system (nature).
I guess I've always had a thing for XNTJs in general. I can see such emotional potential under their layers; XNTP's emotions is to being shackled in prison, as XNTJ's emotions is to the Iron Maiden or XNTPs are to heavy chainmail/light plate as XNTJs are to Full Plate dual wielding two Tower Shields. They are there, just heavily concealed even more so than XNTPs.
I think you define yourself through actions rather than words. I can say I'm an INFP to an, say, NT and I know that certain preconceptions will arise just from that alone. I'm pretty sure everyone does that, we're human. If someone alone thinks your "unworthy" from type alone, fuck 'em. I guess that's the real beauty of friendship: you are born without any of them and for that reason, friendship should be sacred.