Must an extravert be socially assertive?
I would consider myself an extravert because I am energized by the outside world, am comfortable around other people, and enjoy talking about ideas with others.
However, I hate being the person who does all the talking. If I'm talking to a person, I enjoy hearing what the other person thinks about something.
I also consider myself to be unassertive in terms of actual socializing. I don't have the natural assertiveness that other people have. I have introverted friends who are much more socially assertive than I am BUT I wouldn't consider them to be more social than I am.
Some like my INTJ friend has the tendency to and the love of dominating conversations.
I ask this because a lot of type descriptions seem to peg all extraverted types as being very assertive socially.
My theory is that it is an oversimplification of what the types really are like- just as the Feeling types are infamously called illogical by poor type descriptions.
What do you guys think?