People who keep telling you the same stories and jokes over and over

[Rasofy]

-Hey, do you know that joke about the blonde woman who whatever'
(yeah, you told it like three times already)
-Oh, that sounds fun, tell it. (+1 Fe point added)

Maybe that's just because they tend to have a lot of acquaintances and to be aware of past conversations with numerous people would take too much mental effort... But I suspect some cognitive functions play a role here as well.

Thoughts?

 

[skylights]

There is a woman who I believe is ENFJ at my work who retells the same stories over and over. I think she is trying to get us to understand her point and change our behavior accordingly - very ENFJ. But of course if I don't agree with her premise, I'm not going to change my behavior to suit it, no matter how many times she conveys her point. It can lead into interesting discussions, though.

I would think that SJ would be related to repetition but IME I haven't experienced much to support that. My ESFJ mom and ISFJ boyfriend will rehash situations that bother them until they've worked through them but I feel like that's a very F thing to do, and I feel like I do that too.

My INTP 5w6 dad can repeat the same logical arguments against things he despises (health insurance policies, politics, safety concerns, etc), and in that I see T/5 anger against illogical systems.

It seems like in general people bring up topics again and again that cause them cognitive dissonance or that really get at their core beliefs/values/theories/thoughts?

I can't relate that to jokes, though. I don't really know anyone who cracks bad jokes repeatedly and am grateful for that

 

[cafe]

I do it. I can't ever remember who I told what. I know I do it so I don't get huffy if people politely tell me they think I've already told them that.

 

[prplchknz]

my dad tells the same antedotes over and over again.

I probably do it, and am not aware of it.

 

[DiscoBiscuit]

People who keep telling you the same stories and jokes over and over

Everyone does this.

 

[Firebird 8118]

I'm definitely guilty of this , mostly because I forget that I've said the same thing before.

 

[garbage]

-Hey, do you know that joke about the blonde woman who whatever'
(yeah, you told it like three times already)
-Oh, that sounds fun, tell it. (+1 Fe point added)
- Yeah, you told it like three times already

Fixed.

 

[five sounds]

Reminds me of the chicken salad story Jude Law's character tells in I Heart Huckabees.

 

[Amargith]

*raises hand*

I usually do it coz I don't recall who Ive told which anecdote to. And coz some anecdotes become like familiar and precious trips down memory lane - they're just fun to retell. It's like listening to/telling a classic fairy tale - you all know how it is going to end but it is still fun if only for the nostalgia value of it.

 

[Rasofy]

My INTP 5w6 dad can repeat the same logical arguments against things he despises (health insurance policies, politics, safety concerns, etc), and in that I see T/5 anger against illogical systems.

Dammit, I do that too!

Thought I was immune to it...

It seems like in general people bring up topics again and again that cause them cognitive dissonance or that really get at their core beliefs/values/theories/thoughts?

Yep, that makes sense.

Fixed.

 

[empertet]

My mother does this, she's an ENFJ so I guess it's either what Skylights said or because her iNtroverted Thinking is under-developed so she constantly uses others to form her opinions, Unfortunately she doesn't leave the house since she stopped working and discovered FaceBook, so she's going through a "Parrot(TM)" phase(saying the same things every day and not feeling that she has the right level of input to decide).

But I experience conversational Deja Vu nearly constantly so... :/

By the way: Hi, I'm new

 

[wolfy]

I do that now and again. I only have a certain amount of material.

 

[HongDou]

My ENFJ mom does this, but it's with different people each time and I just happen to be there. Also she's 2w3, so it could be 3 related. Having stories to tell to impress people and such.

 

[rogue350]

It drives me crazy -- crazier than I already am. I am usually very attentive and observant of people and even overhear stories and jokes and then people try and tell me. I can play nice a few times and act interested but I don't want to hear the same bad joke four times. I usually know who I have told what. My problem is: I think of asking or telling someone and then I can't remember whether I did or not? So I will ask, "Hey, did I tell you that... Blah blah blah?" and I think people are honest and tell me whether I told them or not.

 

[autumnandtherain]

I have an ESFJ friend who does that ALL the time. My INTP mother tends to do that as well.

 

[Qlip]

My Ne doesn't like it, but if it keeps happening I find a way to have fun with it. I worked in the same place with the same people who had the same stories for 15 years. It was like Groundhog Day, I could change my response and see how they react differently. It ends up being kind of awesome.

 

[AphroditeGoneAwry]

It's innate in us because it's the way our history was handed down before the written word. Repetitive stories are prevalent in the Bible.

Of course, the stories should be valuable in some way, and not just stupid folly that benefits no one. God intended we use this attribute for good, for passing down His everlasting story of deliverance and salvation.

 

[Lexicon]

I do it either due to memory failure or a new conversation with someone in the group & it feels at least somewhat relevant. It was more prevalent when my life was in a more stagnant point, though. When you're not moving fwd you only have so much to share in terms of insight, jokes, anecdotes.

Some jokes I'll use repeatedly on purpose to be an asshole. It's still funny to me.

 

[Rasofy]

Some jokes I'll use repeatedly on purpose to be an asshole. It's still funny to me.

I approve this.

 

[garbage]

Extroverts. Those damn extroverts.