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    So lately I've been thinking about decisions I've made while in the grips of inferior Si.

    It's scary to think of, but I definitely set my path for my career and kinda life plan while in this state. Now that I'm out, I'm dealing with a life that was set up for me under the guise that I would always be some rigid unhealthy Si girl.

    Glad I'm not, but it made me wonder: have other people ever made major decisions under the grips of their inferior? It seems plausible since it's usually triggered by feelings of stress and feeling unable to handle a task with your strongest functions.

    So let's here your tales from the grips!
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    I don't know if this is best seen as a disintegration to type 3 from a 6, or if it's a geniune Se-in-the-grip effect, but I chose my career based on the status it has and the financial rewards. The graduate-level job I took to get into that career was really badly suited to me, requiring a lot more extraversion and energy than I've got. I still perservered with it because I couldn't give up the status.

    So I don't know if that counts as a grip effect. Se grip effects are more around unwise alcohol-based socialising, IME.

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    I stopped showing up to half of my classes due to a feeling of shame regarding my lack of competence in practically every other area in my life, and also due to a feeling of being bombarded with reminders of my own incompetence and stupidity in every single direction. Obsessing over every past and current mistake made me feel subhuman. I had to either build myself up in isolation somehow, or avoid being a functional member of society altogether.

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    Quote Originally Posted by nicolita View Post
    It's scary to think of, but I definitely set my path for my career and kinda life plan while in this state. Now that I'm out, I'm dealing with a life that was set up for me under the guise that I would always be some rigid unhealthy Si girl.
    I'm curious what you mean. Are you still in that career and plan, and are you happy with it?

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    Quote Originally Posted by skylights View Post
    I'm curious what you mean. Are you still in that career and plan, and are you happy with it?
    Yes and not really. I'm working on reexamining it all right now. Definitely quitting my job after this year.
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    I have an INTJ friend who might be in the grips right now. He just broke up with his girlfriend of five years and is looking to party, find some mistakes, and take them home.

    I kind of went through that after my last breakup. I decided it would fine to not be the good guy for once. I avoided the clap though, so no regrets.
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    I'm not sure I can think of decisions made in the grip. As I think the times I've been I simply was not in a situation where there were life changing decisions to be made. But I do recall in my worst grip ever- a few years ago- very dark and stressful time, that I fought tooth and nail to find the light. Yoga, meditation all kinds of things and when I hear the same music and sounds and visuals from that time- the very things that helped pull me out--- it triggers the memories of the darkness and it's an awful awful thing. So i just don't want to go there again.
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    Quote Originally Posted by AzulEyes View Post
    I'm not sure I can think of decisions made in the grip. As I think the times I've been I simply was not in a situation where there were life changing decisions to be made. But I do recall in my worst grip ever- a few years ago- very dark and stressful time, that I fought tooth and nail to find the light. Yoga, meditation all kinds of things and when I hear the same music and sounds and visuals from that time- the very things that helped pull me out--- it triggers the memories of the darkness and it's an awful awful thing. So i just don't want to go there again.
    i hear ya! yoga and meditation are actually what help pull me out too, and i use them regularly to stay out.

    i'm so afraid of that place. F that.
    You hem me in -- behind and before;
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    Such knowledge is too wonderful for me,
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    Quote Originally Posted by nicolita View Post
    i hear ya! yoga and meditation are actually what help pull me out too, and i use them regularly to stay out.

    i'm so afraid of that place. F that.
    It's a horrible place.
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    I don't make decisions in the grip of my inferior. My dominant function is about making decisions, while my inferior, in the grip, is about cutting off outside communication and retreating into a dark and self-pitying internal realm.

    On the bright side: Outside of the grip, I think my inferior is very helpful, when it influences my life decisions. Making sure I don't check my values at the door.
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