He's basically been stuck in the same manual labor career for a steel mill his whole life and it was only until recently that he left it all behind to get away from it all. During that time, he went through a bit of an existentialist funk, dabbling in the likes of Camus, writing poetry and generally just feeling a kind of emptiness from all the superficial relationships he's had in the past.
Since then, he's managed to settle down in a serious relationship with one of the sweetest girls you could ever imagine, but she's moved out of town to get a career in theater and I'm constantly asking him why won't chase after her. She's offered him a place to stay after all. He knows it would be a great opportunity to get out of a town that has nothing left for him and leave his safety net behind, but he's still really hesitant and indecisive about it all.
I'd consider this his own personal Si grips right there and the only thing I can really do about it now is show my support and maybe kick his ass about it from time to time.
As for my own inferior grips, I'd say Te has caused me many awful moments where I'd jumped to really harsh conclusions based on the smallest amount of evidence, almost costing me some serious long term friendships in the process. Like when my ex asked me to phone her and her voice mail message consisted of some guy talking in the background while she just giggled. I took it very personally for some reason.
"You obviously ignore all my calls, just you can show off some new guy you met on OkCupid through your voicemail etc."
Urrghh, it sounds even worse when I read it aloud in my head.
Then we argue, then we make up and do that awkward thing where we pretend it never happened and go back to doing whatever we were doing before.
So yeah, Te grips. The art of worrying that I might become my ISTJ Dad some day... Haha
I've always wondered how ESTJs would manifest their Fi in a way that showed characteristics of an INFP. Would you ever consider yourself introspective to point of self indulgence or does that side of you just not interest you enough?