Bingo. I've been close to two INFPs in my life.As far as showing irritation with you for it, that would only happen if it happened regularly and you and I were relationally close.
I'm probably not taking them seriously at all, but I don't know that I would be making fun of someone for being serious about them. If I'm serious about something, usually it means I'm unhappy.For me, it makes conversation less enjoyable because it jars the flow of them. It makes me wonder if you're taking them as seriously as I or if you're poking fun at me for being serious about them.
So? Everyone values getting in touch with their inner child these days. I guess everyone forgot what 10 year-old boys are like. I don't see anything childish about scatology at all. The people who don't like it as adults probably didn't like it as kids, either. I don't feel that it's important to become "above" that. I recognize in some situations, it might be important to avoid that. But I'd prefer being around my girlfriend to not be one of those situations.And the topic of your interjection makes it seem like you're about 10 years old.
I have no desire become a dull, prim Victorian gentleman who never says anything unseemly and treats his girlfriend "like a lady." That's so dull. I'm not after romance in the traditional sense of the word. What I'm after is better described in the "What is love?" thread.
Well, despite what I may have thought once upon a time, I'm decent at telling what someone is actually feeling, even if they aren't öutwardly demonstrating it. Unless they're professional actors maybe, it's usually in their face, actions, or voice, even if their words tell a different story.One very consistent thing I've seen many of the INFP's here state is that they are not outwardly emotionally demonstrative, yet you seem to use examples of Fi doms who are outwardly emoting some sort of complaint with you.
An ex-girlfriend and a mom.So, I feel there's a pattern mismatch happening somewhere, or else all of the Fi dominant people you speak of are very close to you (siblings, parents, close friends) and feel comfortable showing more of their judging sides.
But sometimes my inner feelings aren't going to go away just like that. Sometimes expressing them just makes them worse, not better. That's not always the case, so I haven't figure why that's true sometimes, and not other times. I suppose it might be if I'm insecure about something, I don't want to express that insecurity if I think the other person is going to say something that feeds that insecurity. Which is usually what happens when I express that insecurity. I don't feel strengthened by expressing it, but weakened. Nor do I feel like someone has my back. I don't feel like sharing that brought me closer to the other person. I feel like it moved me farther apart.I find your grumpiness interesting. A reconciliation is only regarded as fake if the outer expression does not match an inner sense of your sincerity.
And no, just in case you're wondering, it's nothing illegal or dangerous, but I'm afraid it will need to remain a state secret.
I am also surprised that you find my grumpiness interesting. Do you find it interesting as a character trait? Do you see this as "who I am" or do you see this as a "temporary state" that might be changed under certain circumstances?