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    Default Ne-doms and Aux's...How Do You Feel About Possibilities?

    Ne-doms and aux's come hither! I want to know how you feel about possibilities. Do you like them to be there even if you know you won't choose it? I have a strong need for possibilities to exist even when I know I'm not going to go down that route. I even experience distress (sometimes a great deal) if it's cut off while still knowing that I wasn't going to choose it! It feels kinda silly to have such a strong attachment to this but it's always been there.

    I'm assuming this is the power of Ne at work and wanted to hear about your experiences.

    I can't think of any particular examples of this right now but I think you get it.

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    Oh I know what you're talking about! Everytime I need to feel like my options are not closed, the enviroment I live in is not closed and everytime there exists something more, than just what I am able to see and also something that I could possible choose, or use an escape in a case of boredem. Feeling like their is no possibility, only one, for me is the same, like when a person with claostrophobia is in small closed room.

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    Yes absolutely need to have possibilities. It's like the air that I breathe. Closed doors and situations with zero potential just make me feel like I'm already dead. I know everything that will be so why take the next step if that step is just like the last and the thousand that follow.
    There can’t be any large-scale revolution until there’s a personal revolution, on an individual level. It’s got to happen inside first.
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    The possibilities are in my head. I like to think that what i imagine in my head has space to be achievable in the real world. I need to feel like i could be free to do whatever i imagine, and that i am in control and not restrained by limited conditions in the external world.

    However, I tend to also doubt what I have, which is a main weak point for me: after i take a decision or a path in my life i tend to reflect upon my past decisions and my imagination is big enough to perpetually question everything, from a career decision, to breaking up with an old boyfriend, to choosing a certain place to live in, etc, i tend to imagine what would happen if i'd chosen something else, how my life would be different etc.

    Also, since my mind is often in full throttle, i tend to crave (often i feel it physically and i have difficulty reading the signs) some stability in my external world in the things i can't control (is that Si?)

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lady X View Post
    Yes absolutely need to have possibilities. It's like the air that I breathe. Closed doors and situations with zero potential just make me feel like I'm already dead. I know everything that will be so why take the next step if that step is just like the last and the thousand that follow.
    I am like that when I have to force myself to do dull, repetitive tasks...
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    I think 6 influences me a little, in terms of tending to choose one likely possibility and then flesh out subsequent possibilities based on it.

    So for example last night I had this mental plan that me and my boyfriend would sleep at our apartment last night wake up late this morning, go get brunch, go over to my parents', and hang out there for a while before my parents left for a party... maybe I'd watch my favorite TV show and we'd get pizza and so on... Well, turned out that we ended up both falling asleep on the couch at my parents' the night before so that whole plan was cut off at its root. I have a hard time not feeling upset when that happens, even though the day is technically still wide open - with most of those possibilities still available! - because it destroyed the optimization of possibilities in my head.

    I do sometimes feel the same odd displeasure if an option is removed even though it wasn't something I wanted. In general things narrowing down not in the way I envisioned makes me uneasy!

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    Quote Originally Posted by skylights View Post
    I think 6 influences me a little, in terms of tending to choose one likely possibility and then flesh out subsequent possibilities based on it.

    So for example last night I had this mental plan that me and my boyfriend would sleep at our apartment last night wake up late this morning, go get brunch, go over to my parents', and hang out there for a while before my parents left for a party... maybe I'd watch my favorite TV show and we'd get pizza and so on... Well, turned out that we ended up both falling asleep on the couch at my parents' the night before so that whole plan was cut off at its root. I have a hard time not feeling upset when that happens, even though the day is technically still wide open - with most of those possibilities still available! - because it destroyed the optimization of possibilities in my head.

    I do sometimes feel the same odd displeasure if an option is removed even though it wasn't something I wanted. In general things narrowing down not in the way I envisioned makes me uneasy!
    Makes sense...
    Less possibilities...
    I often have regrets I never tried the option, too...
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    I say this as a reminder to myself, but this goes for everyone:

    You can achieve anything you set your mind to, and you are limited only by how dedicated you are to succeed!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Magic Qwan View Post
    Makes sense...
    Less possibilities...
    I often have regrets I never tried the option, too...
    Ohh yes, I had this huge period from like early teens to late teens where I SO felt this, all the time. My sophomore year of college I kind of went all out - had an ESTP 7w8 sx/so best friend who totally rocked my world - and she really helped me to open up a lot and just go for it, even to the point of maybe-not-the-best-idea. I'm not immune from it now of course but I'm a lot better about it than I was. I also think my Ne-seeking has calmed down a little and I feel less like I'm missing out on things all the time if I don't do a little of everything. The 7 still totally shows up like I mentioned before, but not as much in this way anymore. I feel like I'm getting a little better at honing in on what I want and what's important and what kind of stimulation I really want versus what would be okay to skip.

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    Quote Originally Posted by skylights View Post
    Ohh yes, I had this huge period from like early teens to late teens where I SO felt this, all the time. My sophomore year of college I kind of went all out - had an ESTP 7w8 sx/so best friend who totally rocked my world - and she really helped me to open up a lot and just go for it, even to the point of maybe-not-the-best-idea. I'm not immune from it now of course but I'm a lot better about it than I was. I also think my Ne-seeking has calmed down a little and I feel less like I'm missing out on things all the time if I don't do a little of everything. The 7 still totally shows up like I mentioned before, but not as much in this way anymore. I feel like I'm getting a little better at honing in on what I want and what's important and what kind of stimulation I really want versus what would be okay to skip.
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    And be one traveler, long I stood
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    Because it was grassy and wanted wear;
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    -Magic Qwan

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    ^ Indeed... always the memory of what might have been... and justification for what we chose...

    I'm so fascinated by the idea that the person who makes a certain choice is no longer the person they were before making that choice. So you can effectively never return to that decision again... nor is there any guarantee that you, now, would have liked the other option better, because you now is not you before. I feel like my challenge in life is learning how to just be happy and not question my choices so much!

    It's kind of paradoxical in terms of possibility because on one hand, I like having lots of possibilities, but on the other hand, I like knowing that things will turn out well and I don't always like what feels like the heavy burden of choice. I used to try to choose a little of everything to solve that problem... but now I am trying more to focus on the possibilities within each choice as well as immersing myself in the environment/atmosphere of the choice and enjoying it in sort of a Fi/Si way.

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