yup, i noticed this too, so don't think you're the only one feeling this way. !!Have you ever been in a dynamic where someone is moody (Fi or Fe) and the rest of the Fi people pick up the mood like a bad cold and the Fe people get silent and start cold-shouldering the moody person and getting all righteous about it because they see them as the cause of the problem rather than trying to figure out where the problem really lies? Ya. Instead of trying to solve it everyone gets caught up in it rather than trying to transcend it.
As a person who is nether Fe or Te dominant, I feel like I can reside outside of each, reaching into them sometimes and creating solutions. This is where irl I do well. I am wired to step in. Moodiness is usually simple to address ... then everything else starts to tuck back in. I just head off those issues at the start usually, before they build, keeping things smooth. I can see that kind of stuff coming miles off for sure.
So, what bugs me in general about Fe? That people are treated well or poorly depending on where the Fe person has assigned them in their trust circle. Like the tier concept that's being discussed in Z Buck's thread. You can see it in fidelia's responses to each person in the thread and to me. For example, I am in a lower tier with her than some others, I'm not out, but not at the friendly neutral spot either - a bit lower. You can feel it in tone and in comparison to other posts, I am not thanked for my contribution, I am spoken to in a more terse and stern manner and increasingly, I am always mentioned at the outset, like I am receiving a bit of a lecture. (@PB, I this and I that.) You might wonder what I've done to earn this, but basically it boils down to not regularly engaging Fe the way it wishes to be engaged.
I guess that is what it boils down to. I don't often feel that mutual respect. I think for the most part an Fi user simply learns what to do and not do to get along, with Fe and Te. Getting along with Fe, however, feels more trying because the emotional realm is so highly discounted in value by Ni - Fe, yet it is the Fi dom's realm. I didn't realize the full extent of that until the last year probably.