I have a friend who is an INFJ. We both struggle with mental health issues, but in different ways. I find that I sometimes want to ask her how she's doing since we've been open with each other about our situations, and I know we've both expressed that it's nice to have another woman to talk to about it. The problem is every time I ask her about herself, she very quickly switches the focus to me. I have the tendency to not pry and prefer to leave issues open for people to discuss in whatever depth they feel comfortable, so I usually just try to follow her lead. But, by doing that, I almost always end up following her lead into a line of questioning that makes me feel very uncomfortable. I feel like when I give her an honest response, she often questions it and asks questions that imply that I'm not being truthful, and that I'm in a bad place and in denial or something. She gets really specific and bold with her questions, and I almost always end up feeling hurt or violated.
I think the most difficult thing for me is that I am a really open person. I work through problems by talking them out, and I really want to be as honest and open as I can with myself and others. It hurts me though that my honesty with myself or with her is doubted, and I usually wind up a little resentful that she 'took advantage' of me.
I looked more into her type and realiZed that it's called The Counselor. Now I'm afraid that I'm being too sensitive or just misunderstanding her behavior.
Any insight from the forum would be appreciated. I really like her and want to be her friend, and I struggle with feeling this way, because I don't like having these feelings about her.