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    Default Inferior Fe vs. Dominant Fi when it comes to "Manners"

    Are types who have Fe as their inferior function (IxTPs) better at Fe-related social cues and decorum than people who have Fi as their dominant or aux-function? How would an ITP and an IFP differ in the way they handle a touchy emotional situation or topic?

    This video comes to mind, and it makes me wonder if an IxTP would be as "clumsy" as Garfield is:


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    No.



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    For me, manners are an extent of my sincere respect and consideration for other people. But I won't have society imposed "manners" if they make no sense to me. Same with social cues in general, I will be polite and respectful of people, but if externally-imposed rules means I have to be fake then I never comply. And I find it very insulting if someone is being "polite" to me and I can blatantly see that they're being fake. I'd rather have honesty.
    In that sense, personally, I would guess inferior Fe > aux Fi, but i'm just talking for myself.

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    I wrote a long response to this and my phone died..

    I'd say my ISTP boyfriend is more socially savvy than I am, but I'm not entirely sure it's type related. He's more charming than me and knows how to get his way with people better. I do think I'm a little more conscious about how people are reacting to certain things though, and better at gauging people's comfort level.

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    maybe when they're much older or have a fe parent or spouse they might be more aware a concerned with group harmony etc but fi people are not lacking in manners.

    some of us fi people even had fe parents or spouses too
    or a grandmother that made them take etiquette classes. :/
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    No, they aren't.

    IXTP will withdraw (comes off as 'being ignored' by them). IXFP will avoid (comes off 'doesn't care'). Both can go on a sulk-fest but it's typically a low-key, steady sulk that is prone to contaminating the emotional atmosphere...hehe.

    It gets better when they realize that they can actually communicate about unpleasant stuff and live through it. Who knew!

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    Quote Originally Posted by Stansmith View Post
    Are types who have Fe as their inferior function (IxTPs) better at Fe-related social cues and decorum than people who have Fi as their dominant or aux-function? How would an ITP and an IFP differ in the way they handle a touchy emotional situation or topic?

    This video comes to mind, and it makes me wonder if an IxTP would be as "clumsy" as Garfield is:

    i've seen this video before tho and think its such an awesome fi/fe video

    it's cool to show their different ways of being caring. i love it so much and how cute are they!
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    I don't think so, not past a certain age.

    Maybe that's why my Fi dom mom thinks I'm a social butterfly (?!?!). I think I tend to, often unconsciously, soften my Thinking edges when I talk to people. It's as though I've built up a database of how my thought process can make people react, and can use that information to avoid drama I'd rather not deal with, but express myself as much as I need to. I'd rather not do the work required to manage someone in an agitated state, so I try to do things that avoid them getting to that state. Ultimately, this requires a smaller energy expenditure.

    And, many times, in the eyes of others, extending an olive branch is the only way to win. If they look like a bigger asshole than I do, ultimately, they're the ones who lose.

    The bottom of my tritype is enneagram 9, so I suppose that's one way that enters the picture.

    The one trap that does happen is that I overdo it... I'll apologize too much or something like that.
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