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    Every day. In fact, being on non-stop interaction standby exhausts the shit out of me coz I have to be constantly 'on'. I really can enjoy a good interaction and gain a lot of energy from it...but a bad one equally drains me again. Similarly, depending on the mindset I'm in, I can be bored out of my skull when forced to be alone -especially if im tryign to avoid something, and I can totally relish my fantasy world for hours on end doing nothing and having nothing to keep myself occupied other than my very own imagination
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    Quote Originally Posted by nicolita View Post
    More and more as I get older. I can relate to what @Stansmith said about needing to get out of stagnate-feeling situations where I feel unfulfilled by the conversation or people there. That makes me crave intimate and deep conversation or research usually. If I feel that I don't have a choice in what I do in a certain setting, I usually want to get out and be on my own. I have a tendency to wander off by myself when I'm out places with groups of people. A little personal adventure is often exactly what I need, and then I'm ready to rejoin for a while.

    A lot of time, I'll go go go and then my mind kind of demands down time. I do a lot of reflecting and deep thinking, and can kind of get stuck there if I've neglected my need for it for too long. I wound up depressed because of that a few years ago, and have since tried to build quiet reflection time into my life so that I don't wind up desperate for it.
    Quote Originally Posted by Amargith View Post
    Every day. In fact, being on non-stop interaction standby exhausts the shit out of me coz I have to be constantly 'on'. I really can enjoy a good interaction and gain a lot of energy from it...but a bad one equally drains me again. Similarly, depending on the mindset I'm in, I can be bored out of my skull when forced to be alone -especially if im tryign to avoid something, and I can totally relish my fantasy world for hours on end doing nothing and having nothing to keep myself occupied other than my very own imagination
    I definitely relate to both of you a lot.

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    It depends on the company. I could be around my ESFJ bestie for 3 days straight and other people for 10 minutes max. I need time to relax if I've gone to some sort of social outing I'm not particularly interested in but if we do things that are actually stimulating for me then I can definitely keep going. It's kind of a struggle actually because conversations with other friends soon turn out like this:

    Me: I'm bored.
    Friend: Let's do ____!
    Me: Ehh, I don't wanna.
    Friend: Well you're bored and wanna do something, right?
    Me: But I don't want to do that.

    I hate when people try to force me to do things I don't want to do (well...most people do lol) and it just makes me wanna spend more time to myself. I think why I can spend a lot of time with my ESFJ friend is because she's flexible - sometimes she'll do things I want to do and then other times the things she wants to do are really interesting and fun for me. And of course she enjoys the time as well. I actually consider myself to be flexible too, I just lose interest easily. And being forced or having to be convinced to do something just makes it happen faster.
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    I don't need time by myself. I just need time to do what I want so as long as there are periods of time where I can do my own thing without someone making me feel like I'm neglecting them then I'm all good.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Honor View Post
    Under what circumstances do you not want any more interaction? How often, if ever, do you withdraw to recharge? If you never tire of people that you like, then what about people who are unpleasant or who don't understand you?
    I never tire of people that I like, I can honestly say that it has to be people who've in some way alienated me or I've had to "handle" or "pretend" an interest in that I'll feel releaved to get a break from. I have a lot of more solitary pursuits, gym, reading, writing and if I'm doing these and someone tries to make conversation I'll not automatically break away from, I extend to others the curtousey of recognising when their attention and concentration is elsewhere and I'd like to think they reciprocate but even that is not something I would totally prioritise over social interaction opportunities.

    I can be exhausting to introverts to be around, and the whole constant need to conversation or social reads bothers them.

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    Yeah I think what it is for me is that I can shut off anywhere with any amount of people. I can't even help it. If I'm bored with my surroundings I get lost in my head or go do something else and I don't often think to question if I'm being rude... But sometimes ill be made aware that I'm expected to be a certain way and in that case I may want to leave because then I'm bored

    That just rarely happens
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    Quote Originally Posted by Lark View Post
    people who've in some way alienated me or I've had to "handle" or "pretend" an interest in that I'll feel releaved to get a break from
    Could you elaborate more on this? What do you mean by people you've had to "handle"?

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    Quote Originally Posted by Honor View Post
    Could you elaborate more on this? What do you mean by people you've had to "handle"?
    If I'm interacting with someone and it is superficial, professional or simply reflecting good manners and social norms but who I dont really want to interact with, the difference between wanting to and having to, perhaps the voluntary or spontaneous aspect if that makes sense? There is a difference, people can be cordial in a variety of roles, when I worked in a supermarket I found customer interaction could be draining but I wouldnt think that meant I was an introvert.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lady X View Post
    Yeah I think what it is for me is that I can shut off anywhere with any amount of people. I can't even help it. If I'm bored with my surroundings I get lost in my head or go do something else and I don't often think to question if I'm being rude... But sometimes ill be made aware that I'm expected to be a certain way and in that case I may want to leave because then I'm bored

    That just rarely happens
    I know what you mean here.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lark View Post
    If I'm interacting with someone and it is superficial, professional or simply reflecting good manners and social norms but who I dont really want to interact with, the difference between wanting to and having to, perhaps the voluntary or spontaneous aspect if that makes sense? There is a difference, people can be cordial in a variety of roles, when I worked in a supermarket I found customer interaction could be draining but I wouldnt think that meant I was an introvert.
    Ohhh, ok. Gotcha. So by "handle," you mean someone you're forced to play a role with.

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