Most emotional conflicts I've had with Fi-users have involved them assuming my internal state, and unfortunately that upsets me quite a bit because it feels like complete dismissal. I grew up surrounded by Fi-doms, and find that the connection is beautiful, wonderful, deep, ideal, except for emotional conflict. That is a nightmare to me because of feeling judged and being told what I'm feeling, thinking, motivated by, etc. Unfortunately, when I address a behavior that I find to be a problem, the Fi-user translates it into something I'm assuming about their character, so it is difficult/impossible to communicate during conflict. I tend to stop communicating and focus on sending gifts, giving compliments, sending funny pictures of cute animals, and just trying to simplify the interaction into an almost childlike positivity. Edit: there may be a better way to approach miscommunication, but I'm not sure what it is.
Because I've dealt with intangible, generalized guilt all my life, I tend to not want others to feel guilt. It only seems useful if it prevents a harmful behavior. If someone can correct the harmful behavior without guilt, that would seem preferable to me. I am philosophically against punishment and it seems like desiring a feeling a guilt in others is connected to desiring some level of punishment for their behavior. Correcting problematic, harmful behaviors and clearing up misperceptions to improve communication and relationships is what I care about. My mindset is pragmatic and results oriented in this regard.