I can see other nines are able to build their identity around the peace and love, but ive always been encouraged to use my intellect, which i suspect is 5w6 and 4w3 together.
I guess the reason why i cant build identity around my nine is cause its broken, disintegrated to a formless shape. I cant see the peaceful traits in myself im so often complimented for, in ignorance from my self i am.
Im making Ni look bad? Oh, i thought intj's do this all the time so why not infj's for a change?
While feelers tend to be usually experienced enough to avoid such pitfalls cause we're always in the storms.
An example: some istj's become professional conmen cause it appeals to their feeling of superiority for lying, as they just love to lie. This love to lying is entirely irrational but they do it anyways. And they lie rather spontaneously without any other reason than emotional ones. I dont know if all istj's do it, but ive met at least one who satisfied this need in good way.