It's like the Fi-dom people are a softy on the outside and inside they're really just a badass...or if not a cook person...just an asshole on the inside.
I feel like inferior Fi does the opposite. Where the outside is a badass/asshole and on the inside...turns out they're complete mush.
I find Fi doms/aux to be cold sometimes.
My ISFJ friend explained his situation with "Thinking" as a little scary as well. At first it was only after a traumatic event that he had an extreme lack of emotion.
This is a convo we had. He is a pretty mature person. He uses the hell outta his aux Fe.
Me ENTJ: What I wanted to ask you is if you feel something the majority of the day...like throughout your day are you experiencing emotion all the time?...some of the time? or a little of the time? I'm probably little of the time...only when emotion is provoked do i feel somthing. But just now i have started to understand this "conciousness" that people are talking about and if you make yourself feel the right emotions then of course you're being concious...your choosing your state of being...conciousness is many other things but i'm only experimenting with the emotional one now...I'm not very good at it...it's like that "emoting" you talk about. I get it now So I guess the real question is are you emoting all the time...even when you're alone? I can only do it when i'm alone or with one other person..other wise too many distractions.
ISFJ: I am ALWAYS EMOTING, alone, not alone, all day everyday....and get strange flashes of moments where I am not.(before it would need to be with a very strong or jarring or surprising or traumatic effect that I would switch into thinker, but now I can do it by desiring it and focusing on it) And I can play with this fun strange land, without emotion--or as I like to think of it, my thinker is coming online more and more, and as I stretch more into that land, where things aren't emotional...its strange, and very interesting, and very empowering. You must be doing the same thing from the other direction?
ENTJ:yea that's pretty much right, I am an empty vessel. feeling nothing most of the time...or at least I was...It's like we are meeting in the middle jack I LOVE IT! but you have to promise me you wont forever stop feeling...it's really nice to just have an isfj friend...they are never assholes.
-So to answer the question the only way I have been able to distinguish feeling and Feeling when they're so intertwined, is because I FORCE myself to conciously feel. But when it creeps up on me, I cannot tell if I'm using Fe because I'm blasting with emotion. Or just Te on crack trying to defend Fi. Or just Raw Fi. I have no idea how to distinguish in the grip if that's what you mean.