Mod note: Split from Victor's Two Perfect Addictions thread.
Seeing as this is becoming a question of responsibilities I'll change my tac.
America places the responsibility on the speaker more than the listener.
England place the responsibility on the listener more than the speaker.
E vs I.
The reality is though that the responsibility is for both people to try to elevate the communication. Another matter of reality is that being nice can dilute the point and I've found INTJs the best for making a poignant point.
What's people's beef anyway? Victor says that the MBTI is a load of whoey and you're kidding yourself if you believe in it. He's right to a certain point. If you, however, take that factual statement and decide to take it as a judgement on you as a person then is Victor being hurtful or are you just deciding to make it personal? To me it's not clear cut.
Anyhow who wants a world filled with everyone acting courteously and nice all the time. Yes there are degrees but in essence it's essential to progress.
If you like House then quit complaining when he comes to the forum for a stay
Oh and that's not to say that I encourage "bad" behaviour, just that I discourage the whole 'supposed to' thinking.
Besides isn't the MBTI about communication? If you're a true believer then you'll see the playfulness behind the stony demeanour.