My friend, an ISTP, has some behaviors with me that don't seem so typically ISTP. He's in a relationship that he may well get out of and I'm not interested in anyone's judgment here but we've gone out a few times, plan on getting together more (have not slept together but have kissed each other). I know for fact that he's an ISTP because he took the test and shared his results. We stopped seeing each other when he took back a girlfriend who had delved into cheating on him. But we also stayed in touch a bit via email. Over the last few months, we've heated up our exchange. Do these seem like typical ISTP behaviors?:
- We go to dinner and he holds my hand the entire time we're out together.
- Tells me that being with me feels natural and that he has one of the most intimate relationships with me he's ever had (bearing in mind we haven't slept together).
- Repeatedly seems surprised that he feels so "natural" being with me.
- Wants to sleep together but also feels guilty and says that the last thing he wants is to ruin the wonderful and intimate connection we've been developing over the last few months.
I think he feels he's not in the right relationship right now, but doesn't know how to leave it and is working through his feelings for his GF and competing feelings for me. I think he might like to leave that relationship, but feels some loyalty, but wants to explore things with me, is afraid of leaving her, then things don't work with me and he's alone with no one again. Of course, this could all be nuts and I'm far off base
Oh, and she wants to marry him. I ask if he wants to marry her and there's silence. Then he says he doesn't know if she's the one and I could be the one. That the relationship is stable to the extent that he's sitting in the car with me. I wouldn't think of an ISTP even using the expresssion "the one." Sounds more NF to me.