Normally, I get people pretty easily. However, I am stumped. I have an xNTP (I think he is an INTP) friend. At least, I think he is my friend. To make a list:
-He nearly never responds to me. I could be in great distress, and he wouldn't respond.
-However, he did months ago when I was in moderate distress, and he was reassuring. Quick responses, very empathetic. Not faking.
-During that conversation he said that after first meeting me he already liked me more than most of his close friends
-That conversation lasted hours and hours.
-My (now ex) and I ended up together, and after that, essentially no responses
-He has stated that other people try as hard as I do to talk to him
-He says he is known for not picking up his phone for days (reassuring me that it's him, maybe?)
-Seems to enjoy my company when I have seen him. He has a difficult time engaging or wanted to engage until he actually does. You can see where that can cause problems. Doesn't want to hang out or talk until he actually does, it seems.
-Has responded to phone calls, though I haven't tried any recently.
These are just my perceptions. I keep trying to figure out his mind, and one of the biggest things I can't seem to figure out is: does he want to talk to me, and why or why not.