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    I see a general pattern of general optimism in early 20's stretching into thinking life is difficult in early 40's. I wish someone over the age of 45 would actually get on the internet sites so we could see if the pendulum swings back as you get older.
    I'll be honest that my level of optimism has stayed pretty constant and steady, although it has been tempered by knowledge or information.

    Some life milestones dont live up to the hopes or expectations or perhaps you learn a bit about why the ideologies, religions or philosophies you where thrilled about when you where younger have a dark side, imperfections or have legitimate challengers but its not a lack of optimism.

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    Please tell us your general age group (under 20, 20's, 30's, 40's etc.)
    I'm 18.

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    And then tell us how you perceive life.
    Life is whatever you make of it.

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    Do you think life is easy/hard, a struggle?
    Life just is. I never saw it as easy or hard.

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    Do you feel like you have a lot of control over how your life goes?
    Sort of. I can control the general direction, but I can't guarantee I'll make it anywhere.

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    Have you found a specific outlook towards life that helps you a lot? (for example, you have learned that perseverence is the key to success or that tolerance is the key to relationships).
    The key to successful procrastination is really to wait until the second to last minute, that way you still have extra time if things don't go as well as you expect.

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    Do you have goals in your life that you think you will achieve or are your goals out of reach?
    I don't set goals. I just move toward what I want and see how far that takes me.

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    I'm kinda feeling dead-end-ish with life lately, to be frank... due to circumstance. What is it with circumstances? They're always so shady. I'm finna change that though. Life is hard & a struggle, & painful, but also struggling is how you grow, & on the other side of every pain is a happiness. When I was 20 I felt like the world was my lemon, like I could do anything. Now a lot of what seemed so great to do doesn't seem that important. But I'm bout to get on some new shit. I'm going into my (trademarking this) 'Orange Period.' Like Picasso's blue period, the inverse. Orange being the complement of blue. Just gettin' on some new shit is what I'm concerned with here. A lot of good things are gonna happen to me soon, I'm relatively certain about it.

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    Please tell us your general age group
    34 and on a life path of the most extraordinary kind.

    And then tell us how you perceive life.
    ...In brief.

    I feel life is prebirthed and this artifact of conception we portray as our stations of life are created from contracts that manifest into this world by our preconceived notion of karma and the kind of learning we wish to become aware of in our current incarnation.

    Having mentioned contracts, I would now like to discuss the mirroring effect and living in sufferance to our mirrors. Early on in life before we become influenced by our birthgivers, families, friends and society our innate ability in comprehension is different. Indeed our rate of exploration and enchantment with the world is such that we go around doing until controls and restrictions become conditioned into our psyche to stop doing such and such a thing and to become dulistic oriented, that everything is piled into good or bad, our senses become limited, our perceptions change, our hearts start closing to the hurts that are becoming apparent. Then our minds become the primary focus of our lives. And in this living world it is with our minds that we find ourselves thinking without having the opportunity to open our hearts and thinking and feeling our way with our hearts. Because it is too painful from all the experiences in the world that are telling us our mind is the center of the universe when our hearts are.

    Then there is our response rates created by a mirroring effect that is in sufferance to our emotions. As a direct reflection of who we are from our conditioning we attract, indeed become the mirrors of our lives, and this is deeper than the surface infrastructure I speak of. In these mirrors we are in effect being shown that which we are often times running away from. We may call this in Carl Jung speak sense Anima and Animus. The minute you change this, the in sufferance changes and mirrors stop having the control in our lives we feed to them without knowing how to forgive, release and create a sense of gratitude that all of it was a manifestation brought about from our pasts to our present so that we may learn, learn deeply of the nectar of life and the station of living we have been creating, giving and receiving in this time reality.

    Do you think life is easy/hard, a struggle?
    Anyway the reality isn't whether life is easy or hard, or a struggle for struggle is much the same as hard or survival mentality that is lumped in with a poverty mentality instead of an abundance mentality. This is a limited belief.

    Now I could discuss why society creates, indeed programmed a poverty mentality subconsciousness but that would drag on and go into the psychology of money, love and power.

    What I would like to say is when you restore, reclaim and become certain in your presence as a human being with self belief in your spirit, your essential unshakable, unbreakable power source, the center of your being. Then life is neither easy nor hard nor a struggle, it is now an acceptable form of living, because you are starting to change the perceptual limitation that a, life is meant to be about hard work to achieve all your goals and ambitions or none. b. life is meant to be about easy work to achieve all your goals and ambitions or none.

    When your restore your heart, your inner passion, your inner being to understand that you are more than the station of impediment then you start transmuting your light, your energy into alignment with your dreams, your life's purpose and any obstacle that comes your way is no longer an obstacle by circumstance, environment or limitation but by choice, freedom and creation.

    Do you feel like you have a lot of control over how your life goes?
    Having said that, when you are able to rebalance your entire being, your feminine and masculine shadows, (anima and animus for Jungian enthusiasts) then your ability to create the fluidity in your life becomes your source of power instead of giving away your power by asking for approval, indeed by having others strip you of your control, balance and security by undermining all of this you start actually moving forward with a sense of assertion and confidence that is now psychologically profound. And many of your life scripts in your emotional, physical and conscious bodies become in alignment to who you are and then having control over your life isn't a matter of question, it is certainty.

    And I would like to say that this is more than having control on how your life goes for this is a perceptual thing, almost an inbred competitive thing, perhaps saying when you have a lot of certainty and presence over your life is better.

    Have you found a specific outlook towards life that helps you a lot? (for example, you have learned that perseverence is the key to success or that tolerance is the key to relationships).
    Gratitude, Certainty and Presence creates confidence, assertion and affirmation.

    Perseverance entails a survival instinctual variance in behaviour and this would then feed into a particular loop and I would like to say it is a quality born from uncertainty. You persevere to become certain in your success, for how long does that take? It is a form of sufferance, to persevere is to be in sufferance to your human condition. Tolerance is a interesting word, how far does one tolerate and persevere a relationship? how far does one tolerate anything, does tolerance stem from a sense of stubbornness to persevere in sufferance to the situation thinking the longer we are there the sooner this will change?

    Personally I prefer peace without perseverance and patience without tolerance. For it is peaceful to be rested, and it is patient to be kind. While tolerance is all very well and good, it is while in a state of patience does one appreciate the gift of gratitude that tolerance wouldn't.

    Do you have goals in your life that you think you will achieve or are your goals out of reach?
    Yes I have goals that I am certain I will achieve and my goals are no longer held in place by limitations. For the greatest limitation we can place upon ourselves is the belief that any and every kind of information that comes to us is from outside sources. When our reality comes from understanding our inner consciousness first. When we can do this like a wave our whole infrastructure, intellectual, emotional and energetic quantum collapses from thinking and feeling the reality we are finding ourselves in is unchangeable, for life, in sufferance to every and any obstacle that comes our way. This is where dreams and goals start and end.

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    I'm told I'm in my 20s.
    Do you think life is easy/hard, a struggle?
    Life is just a thing and it's people who make things hard or easy.
    Do you feel like you have a lot of control over how your life goes?
    I'd like to think I am 100% in control, but in reality it's about 50%. Meaning I could slit my wrists now and hope I'd die, but by some fucked up twist of fate I could end up surviving anyway.
    Have you found a specific outlook towards life that helps you a lot?
    Don't be kind or mean for the sake of being so, be kind or mean because it's going to get you ahead.
    Do you have goals in your life that you think you will achieve or are your goals out of reach?
    I don't have any goals at this time. I'm just shuffling along and if I happen to do something spectacular I guess I'll call it goal and cross it off my list.
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    Well I read an article about this - sorry I don't have the link at this second. It says that happiness starts out high in the 20's, hits a low point at age 45, then climbs steadily to hit a high point at age 65.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lily flower View Post
    Well I read an article about this - sorry I don't have the link at this second. It says that happiness starts out high in the 20's, hits a low point at age 45, then climbs steadily to hit a high point at age 65.
    More likely this would be an issue when dreams are out of alignment and mid life crisis sets during 45. If people are in alignment to their dreams then life is in balance. My 20s, I wish were happy days. Starting to be now though has some way to go before I reach my forties.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Lily flower View Post
    Well I read an article about this - sorry I don't have the link at this second. It says that happiness starts out high in the 20's, hits a low point at age 45, then climbs steadily to hit a high point at age 65.
    Yay, my 20's were probably my most unhappy, confused years of my life (generally speaking), and my teens weren't much better. From my perspective 30's are WAY better, as I had worked through most of the elements causing me such discord in those prior decades, and am now in a better position to navigate through, and understand, myself and life. I've also heard many state kind of the opposite of your article, that 40's are better than 30's. And so on. It's really pretty individual I think.

    I think that if someone had the best time of their life in their teens and 20's, then they may not have had many challenges, or even had a need to broach certain life topics/thoughts (and there's nothing wrong with that), so they're bound to dip down a bit and the sheer contrast will be painful. Whereas someone who had it rougher in their teens/20's may have already come to terms with many elements of life/ come to know themselves well, so that their golden years are later on. But then you have a big subset of very bitter older people who are having a rough go of it, and they would say life was much better in their younger years. I mean, you can go back and forth on this - it's why I think it's very individual.

    I think a big piece of the 'golden years' though (at whatever age it happens) isn't necessarily that it IS easier/things really ARE that much better - but rather it's the mindset that allows one to be ok and happy and accepting/at peace with much of what comes ones' way. As others have said, life is what you make of it. Much of it is perception. What angle are you looking at it? And if you're happy, you're happy. Even if tangibly you're dealing with things that you wouldn't have been able to cope with when younger.

    I suppose we all go through many of the same phases, just at differing times in life.
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    Early 30s. I'm pretty sure I'm far behind most in my "age group".

    How do I percieve life? I think it's full of unnecessary paperwork and cockblocking. I would have made a decent caveman or criminal actually. Cutting my way through everything seems like the most expedient thing to do to get "control" of one's life. And I was on my way in doing as much when I was in my teens. I had to do something stupid though and get "morals".

    Only problem is that I never learned to adjust to...umm.. playing the whole game of life, I guess. I'm not responsible exactly. So I feel like I'm going nowhere. I don't have it in me anymore to be as aggressive as I once was, and I don't have it in me to play along and be another rat racing, hard working, blue collar chump. I just float around.

    I'm sure I'm being vague and/or none of this makes sense.

    Oddly though, I'm kind of happy. I'm pretty sure I have less stress than most people my age. No crow's feet either.

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    Please tell us your general age group (under 20, 20's, 30's, 40's etc.)
    23.
    And then tell us how you perceive life.
    Life is a journey. Limited and supposed to be pleasant.
    Do you think life is easy/hard, a struggle?
    Depends on how easily you are satisfied and how far you wanna go. Easy lives lead to stagnancy and depression, while hard lives make you evolve. Pressure makes diamonds. As long as you have some control over it, a challenging life is much preferable.
    Do you feel like you have a lot of control over how your life goes?
    No. I earned enough money to do almost everything I want, but I hate the son condition. Crap, I want to be treated like an equal. That's gonna get more manageable once I leave home, fortunately.
    Have you found a specific outlook towards life that helps you a lot? (for example, you have learned that perseverence is the key to success or that tolerance is the key to relationships).
    Learn with your mistakes. Even better, learn with other people's mistakes. It is hard to avoid mistakes once you are emotionally invested, so go easy on yourself. Just face reality and be stronger next time.
    Do you have goals in your life that you think you will achieve or are your goals out of reach?
    Goals out of reach are dreams. I don't fool myself. Ok, at least not consciously.
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