Te sees the building blocks as items in the world; Fe sees them as people. This connection.
I like how my Te dom husband expresses it, "If I didn't think I was right, why would I say anything, of course I think I am when I say what I think." Fe is just like that too ... but people are trickier, there's sometimes nothing objective to point to in the "real world" to substantiate perceptions, so, enter the creation of complex social structures, by which people and their behaviour can be judged as effective or ineffective (right or wrong). This also drives the need to seek out and find commonality in feeling, to strike consensus.
Ni - Fe is more consultative in this approach when the water is muddied for them I think. Many other Fe types are not so, and seem much quicker to levy judgement based on accepted "rules" of interaction in their social circles, "Oh you couldn't believe what she said yesterday" or "What she wore to the party was just so inappropriate". Ni's concern to see the picture clearly before they react on such data is the difference - so enter the trusted person(s). The trusted person can provide data that reframes the social judgement, "Did you know her husband lost his job? Obviously there's stress and money trouble" and that data can drive a new compassion that forgives the faux pas above.
You know what really bakes my beans though? Sometimes I get annoyed when I am not allowed in the circle, that I don't get to be a "trusted person" within my small purview or when I "lose my lustre" having unknowingly broken an Fe rule or two (which the Ni type will be unlikely to express verbally or aloud, you just feel judgement levied and the distancing) - gosh, it seems unfair. I make a place for a person in my life, a cozy Si place that's there forever to maintain our friendship, and poof an Ni person has moved on, and I get the sense that it doesn't matter much whether we had a friendship at all. Ah well, thankfully those moments are very few, three people that come to mind, from relationships originating in my twenties (where we're all just learning I suppose) and there's still a little pang of loss for me. I know they don't think ill of me. It's just that ... they don't think about me. Funny too, that Fi - Si place can be visited like time hasn't passed at all in the friendship, and we pick up where it left off ...
I am not complaining btw, I just tend to take ownership of the situation, "What did I do wrong?" as opposed to the Fe perspective of "I did what was the right thing to do". It's highly likely I didn't even do much of anything wrong, I just feel a need to give some type of explanation for myself, so I assume I must have done something. It's a common Fi vantage point I think. "What did I do to mess this up?" Then, enter an Fe user, who says, "Well, you must have done something!" and doubt and indecision enter in, and starts off an Fi - Si loop where every interaction is examined for error.
Well, yes - Te "tells it like you see it", and so does Fe, which dictates the how and why you should be feeling for the most successful outcome - either of which may or may not be correct btw. But assume a position of authority? Absolutely. Te and Fe both. Either an objective authority or a moral one - authority both.I'm going on and on about this because I'm trying to get at the actual habit individual people seem to have when in thrall of Je, namely that of being directive. They assume authority. They assume the right to explain and dictate. They tell it like it is.
Both are the leaders orchestrating either the people-dance or the logistics-dance.
Then there's someone like me, who watches you both doing what you do, and I can study it to emulate it in order to achieve my own objectives. But I am not inborn with this skill, but what I do have is a great ability to see what works and what does not, and can simulate each with generally a high degree of success. But each approach requires a high energy output, not being my natural bent.
Yes, they often have a goal, always have a direction, and use their people insights and well-placed nudges of emotion to get there. But maybe some Fe folks can say more about that, rather than me. I might use language that's not exactly what Ni - Fe would use.But what's the analogous Fe-type-in-Fe-thrall action? Do they "tell it", lay it out in impersonal words? Do they emote it like it is, splashing out with histrionic gestures or Hindu calm faces or whatever? Do they have a goal?