I'm not trying to say that all ExxPs are untrustworthy, I hope it doesn't come across that way. It's mainly a communication gulf, but one I find hard to bridge. I have probably just had a few bad experiences, for one thing. I mean, I know that in at least one or two cases it was a bad experience because there was far too much of that sounding board/"you're a useful free therapist" dynamic - which could definitely happen with any type.
But I guess I'm trying to say that sometimes an ExxP will come across as super-definitive but then nothing comes of it or they do the opposite. And that totally confuses me and makes me wary about trusting. So I really wonder how you KNOW that they're going to follow through, and that it isn't a whim.
I can kind of understand the "trying a thought on for size by saying it" thing - but only intellectually, if you know what I mean. It is never going to be a communication style that I really understand as in sympathizing with it.
I probably sound a bit judgmental here. I think part of the problem is definitely that I've had a couple of bad experiences and the nature of them was somewhat filtered through type. Obviously you can meet immature and unhealthy people of any type. Perhaps it is even harder to understand the nature of their immaturity and unhealthiness when their type is very different from yours.