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  • it sucks! I want to be an extrovert! =(

    3 4.62%
  • I would prefer being an extrovert, but being I is alright

    7 10.77%
  • it is hard, but I still like being an introvert

    22 33.85%
  • It's hard being I, but I'm neutral

    5 7.69%
  • it's not hard being I, I'm neutral

    7 10.77%
  • extroverts are awesome too, but I'm glad I'm I

    6 9.23%
  • I love being an introvert! =D

    9 13.85%
  • it's just a friggin letter, who cares?

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    Default Is it hard being an introvert?

    all of the introverts I know IRL (about 20) and most of the pages I read on them make it sound like being an introvert is like the hardest thing in the world. some of the most common things they say are
    - no one understands me
    - people think I'm antisocial
    - I don't know anyone else like me
    - I really like people, but I don't know how to show it
    - people drain me
    - I need to be alone so much

    at least 12 of them say they wish they were extraverted and I'm sitting here thinking 'nigga you crazy!'*
    - you don't need people
    - you don't have to urge to talk non stop, whore for attention or do things that are impulsive or stupid
    - you can focus better (although this applies much more to J than I)
    - your natural tendencies are so much more mature and classy (especially INTJs)
    - you're grossly overrepresented in the gifted community
    - if you are an introvert and stupid, people still assume you're intelligent
    - you can say nothing for extended periods of time and then pop out bad ass one liners than make people go "oh ssssssshit!"
    - you're naturally mysterious and bad ass
    - you have an excuse to be left the fuck alone

    so what do all the introverts out their think? do you like being an introvert? is it hard? do you wish you were an extrovert?

    *I'm white, but I feel like this phrase best matches my mental response to them saying that (white people language lacks attitude, edge and personality). please don't turn this into an "Elfboy is a racist!" thread
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    Quote Originally Posted by Elfboy View Post
    - if you are an introvert and stupid, people still assume you're intelligent


    It's only hard when you're expected to be an extrovert, when people make false assumptions (i.e. you must be antisocial or socially inept) and they don't bother finding out the truth, when you're constantly being harrassed about your introverted ways.

    I'm peachy with my introverted ways. I guess if I were an extrovert, I'd like it just the same.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Elfboy View Post
    all of the introverts I know IRL (about 20) and most of the pages I read on them make it sound like being an introvert is like the hardest thing in the world. some of the most common things they say are
    - no one understands me
    - people think I'm antisocial
    - I don't know anyone else like me
    - I really like people, but I don't know how to show it
    - people drain me
    - I need to be alone so much

    at least 12 of them say they wish they were extraverted and I'm sitting here thinking 'nigga you crazy!'*
    - you don't need people
    - you don't have to urge to talk non stop, whore for attention or do things that are impulsive or stupid
    - you can focus better (although this applies much more to J than I)
    - your natural tendencies are so much more mature and classy (especially INTJs)
    - you're grossly overrepresented in the gifted community
    - if you are an introvert and stupid, people still assume you're intelligent
    - you can say nothing for extended periods of time and then pop out bad ass one liners than make people go "oh ssssssshit!"
    - you're naturally mysterious and bad ass
    - you have an excuse to be left the fuck alone

    so what do all the introverts out their think? do you like being an introvert? is it hard? do you wish you were an extrovert?

    *I'm white, but I feel like this phrase best matches my mental response to them saying that (white people language lacks attitude, edge and personality). please don't turn this into an "Elfboy is a racist!" thread
    You list some good upsides.

    Sure, being so withdrawn from others can make things hard, and there are times when I envy extroverts but I don't hate the fact I'm an introvert. Anyway, I don't necessarily associate introversion with the sorts of social problems I have; I mostly attribute it to being very shy, awkward and weird.
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    Being introverted is my cognitive and social preference, therefore I would say 'not for me'.

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    I look at extroverts and wonder how they stay "on" all the time.
    I dislike the judgments placed on me, some what. I don't like people thinking I'm a snob, or a cut above. I don't hate being introverted. It is what it is. It's easier when people accept I'm reserved, and need time alone.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Phantonym View Post


    It's only hard when you're expected to be an extrovert, when people make false assumptions (i.e. you must be antisocial or socially inept) and they don't bother finding out the truth, when you're constantly being harrassed about your introverted ways.

    I'm peachy with my introverted ways. I guess if I were an extrovert, I'd like it just the same.
    I thought it was interesting that you mentioned false assumptions. This is something I think about quite a lot and something I do tend to get upset about. I think introverts are more likely to have false assumptions laid upon them because by and large the essence of our personality tends to be buried a bit deeper than with more extroverted types.

    I'm not an extreme introvert - in fact, many people think I'm quite outgoing. But people do tend to get me wrong one way or another and even it's kind of in a complimentary way, I don't like that much. Some who have seen me mainly at more withdrawn times in my life think I'm really withdrawn and not interested in having friends. Others think I'm very outgoing and extroverted, and even a bit of a party girl or socialite. Neither are true. I'm a fairly typical INFJ: I like people (or I try to, not always the same thing), I try to go towards people - strong Fe - and at least be friendly and courteous. I do have very fun-loving, extroverted and social moments, but they tend to be limited in duration and then I have to withdraw and build myself up.

    It can also be very damaging when some see me as very strong and resilient and able to take other people's crap or be drained by them indefinitely and be their free therapist, or worse, when they somehow think this means I'm not sensitive or don't have strong feelings or don't even "care" much (the opposite of the truth, and it blows my mind that some people have thought that.). That is a sure way to throw me straight into crash/hermit mode, and to make me resentful and feel used.

    I do think it's more of an extrovert's world. In some ways I really like being a definite introvert but with some quite extroverted tendencies. However, I think it does leave me open to sometimes painful misinterpretation.
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    It's funny how interpretation goes.

    I would suggest a small test. Your avatar, how would you interpret that scene?

    I have three potential interpretations of my own. But I'm curious what your eyes see.

    Interpretation 1: The female in your avatar just bitch slapped the male who is falling over in utter defeat, whilest the woman turns away from him with a 'talk to the hand, cuz the face ain't listening' attitude, opening a book and ignoring his existance by reading solemnly.

    Interpretation 2: The male is inviting the lay with the woman on the tree branch, but the woman is scare of the little bugs on the branches. And is also much to interested in what happens next chapter of her romantic book to be interested in the guy.

    Interpretation 3: She caught the male, who happens to be her son, reading a prono magazine and she furiously takes it away from him, leaving him to his own devices.


    Also, the test isn't actually a test, I was just bored and admired your avatar for a while, and mixed it into this post whilest what I actually wanted to say starts after these three dots... We all see what our own eyes see. Other people don't realize how different each set of eyes perceive the same world however, and assume others see what they see. Therein lie all misinterpretations. Do not feel angered or sad for what others see or fail to see. Feel pity for them instead. So that in turn you will not be sad or angered with yourself when you fail to see their eyes. But feel pity on yourself instead. Which is by far the better option!
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    I think that I've always placed too much importance on what others think of me, and how I come across to others; thus I've tended to have social anxiety throughout my life that has never fully gone away. I've certainly gotten better about all of it, in terms of feeling more solid/confident in who I am in recent years, and showing that, but definitely when I'm with groups of people, or even 1:1 with people sometimes, I feel like I 'should' be talking more.

    On my own, it's not 'hard' being an introvert. I like who I am, and I don't think there's anything 'wrong' with it. Also, most of my interests/hobbies are solitary in nature, and I get a lot of pleasure in that. Most of the time, I like who I am and am happy. And, I have close friends and a sig. other who I feel wholly and 100% comfortable with, and understood. It's simply when I AM out in a social arena, or at work, I DO get comments from others now and then on how quiet I am, or I start feeling uncomfortable about this aspect of me - in contrast with others - and so in some ways my introversion has always been my greatest insecurity; placing self-imposed expectations on myself that I 'should' be more extroverted/talkative, and that others would prefer that out of me.
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    I don't mind being introvert per se, but I've always wondered what being an Extravert would be like. I'm often suprised when extraverts claim they want to be introverts. Are you fucking crazy?!?!?

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