I’m posting my response to Orangey before catching up with the rest of the thread, so usual apologies for anything that’s already been said.
It’s just that it really does make a difference, to talk to someone with the same starting point. I relate strongly to the first post Jennifer left- a lot of times point A for me isn’t close enough to point B (where its practical value is apparent) in what I’m saying for its value to be easily digestible. It helps to talk to people who can help me iron it out- others who make the same leaps of thought, so they can either show me where I’ve gone wrong or show me where I need to present the connections in a more linear way. I suppose I would call this a “secret language”, it does help me make it more readily digestible if I’ve got someone to iron it out with. If I can’t make it more digestible, it gets dismissed as imagination or just making things more complicated then they need to be- because the meaning isn’t based on what “REAL meaning” is to the other person. This is frustrating when I’m pretty sure I’ve got a valid point (with practical value, however many stages removed from “REAL” as it may seem). And the more someone can understand the leaps in thought I tend to make, the less they are likely to dismiss what I’m saying as crazy talk.
I thought this was a good point:
To the op, I think there is a point by virtue of N being a minority. A minority in any group will always have to be somewhat more accommodating than the majority, because that’s just how things work. This, and there was a point in how Ns have to develop S in order to function in the world and communicate with others (to both Ss and other Ns alike)- whereas Ss don’t really need to develop N simply to be functional.
I’m not sure I agree that sensing much of communication barrier at all means a person is underdeveloped, but I guess that depends on how we’re qualifying a communication barrier. As I said above, I do perceive something like bumps in the road- but someone has to be a really unwilling, super-underdeveloped S for me to think it isn't worth the effort of trying to communicate with them.