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    Default Why dont you ever smile?

    I am so tired of hearing people say this to me... or my other favorites

    "are you mad/sad?" or "why so serious" which has become ever more popular since Batman... sigh.

    Look... I'll frickin smile when I feel like smiling. I dont walk around with a smile on my face all the time, honestly I dont know why, I think because its tiring, I have literally TRIED to do that, and my face begins to quiver and and my eyes eventually begin to water. And what the hell am I smiling at anyway? I am fairly stoic anyway, and to save time, no I am not excited, not excited that I am graduating college, got a new job, nephew was born, am going on a roller coaster, lost my virginity, etc etc... I dont get excited. I do occasionally get a quick tingle inside if I think up something clever or I put my mind to something and see it finished and accomplished, but other then that, nothing.

    Does anyone else feel this way? Check in with your MBTI while you're at it.
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    I don't make much fuss about it. People know that I don't, so they don't pester me over it. However, I can secretly smile when I get some insight about the world. It's like a joke that no one else but yourself understands

    Oh, and I'm INTJ with relatively strong Ni [but also Ne...] and Te (but I usually refrain from saying what cognitive functions I'm "good" at, since all of them are used anyway.).
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    Quote Originally Posted by Billy View Post
    Look... I'll frickin smile when I feel like smiling. I dont walk around with a smile on my face all the time...its tiring...And what the hell am I smiling at anyway? I am fairly stoic anyway, and to save time, no I am not excited... I dont get excited. I do occasionally get a quick tingle inside if I think up something clever or I put my mind to something and see it finished and accomplished, but other then that, nothing.
    Yup, that's about it for me as well. INFJ.

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    This happens to me too. It seems to be a pretty common INFJ experience. And then I get odd looks when I occasionally smile and laugh to myself at random funny thoughts. Though I am making a conscious effort to try and look just a tiny bit happier in day to day life...but some days it's more effort than it's worth.

    I do get excited about things and can be very animated then. I also have a generally friendly and smiling manner when I talk to other people. But I know that I look fairly serious and even sad when on my own, walking down the street etc.

    My default expression seems to be the thousand-yard stare...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Thisica View Post
    I don't make much fuss about it. People know that I don't, so they don't pester me over it. However, I can secretly smile when I get some insight about the world. It's like a joke that no one else but yourself understands

    Oh, and I'm INTJ with relatively strong Ni [but also Ne...] and Te (but I usually refrain from saying what cognitive functions I'm "good" at, since all of them are used anyway.).
    I think INTJs smile a lot, just not usually when people are around. in fact, they can have straight up mad scientist moments alone in their rooms and often let out a crazed, maniacal laugh that is destinctly INTJ
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    Huh. I'm not exactly bubbly and perky, but I don't get people telling me to smile all that often. Could there be something specifically about INFJs that gives a gloomy or 'too serious' impression?

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    i dont get anyone say this to me, even tho im an INTP. but im a weirdo for an INTP because i smile quite alot, i smile when im with other people(not all the time tho), when im alone(like now thinking about this) and when im around strangers(in a bus for example) and think of something funny(i try to resist it tho, because it looks weird, but what looks even more weird is that when im trying to resist it too hard and barely can)
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    The worst part is when I smile or laugh, then the very same people who asked me why I looked so downcast ask me "What are you so happy about?" (not in a negative way, mind you). WTH? Are you the Mood Police, dad?

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    I've had the opposite problem it seems. People will walk up to me and say things "what are you smiling about?" or "you look really happy" even when I'm not. Maybe I just subconsciously smile when nervous or stressed.
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    I've come across people who complained that they can't read me. I've also had people tell me to quit smirking. Both groups can go to hell.

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