Since I've been hanging around here so often lately, I gave in and asked some of my close friends who hadn't done the MBTI intake before to do it. Last night my SO and I were having quite a lot of fun reading all the profiles and the relationships between types (these are mutual friends we're both close with).
We read the 'basic' description of the type relationships ("cohort", "pal", "enigma", etc,) but when we went looking for more in-depth description, we mainly found confusing, over-analytical academic articles that irritated us both. I wanted to throw it into the ring here, to see what you guys had to say.
First, what the hell does the anima/animus relationship actually mean? My SO is an ESFP and his best friend and business partner is INTJ. They're apparently the 'anima' relationship, but we were both frustrated with the descriptions of this relationship. They're really different from each other, my ESFP is like the younger brother who gets flights of fancy and needs the INTJ older brother to kick his ass back down to earth sometimes, haha. They have a great relationship though, like two very different peas that share the same pod really well.
I'm INFJ and my fella is ESFP, and apparently we are considered 'Cohorts'. Another close friend (whom is indeed very similar to my SO) came up ESFP too. It says we're mutually drawn to experimental experiences, and that sort of rang true for me. We all definitely have an almost insatiable curiosity streak, and others have called us 'dangerous' as a trio. One night we all went out and the three of us spotted this biker/karaoke bar and were like "WE MUST GO INSIDE THIS PLACE". My two ESFPs didn't seem to think danger was any possibility at all, and while I'm different in that I DID project there could be danger, I just wanted to see what it was really like inside so bad I didn't care (basically, their motivation was more "I wanna see!", whereas mine was "I think this place might be _____ but I want to see if I'm wrong or right about my assumptions"). The rest of them were like "Are you retarded? It's a shit hole!".
My SO's best friend is the INTJ, and he's the 'companion' to the INFJ. I only read the basic descriptions, but it seemed pretty spot on. He's more reserved than me, he's very direct and blunt (but never cruel). We've always had this 'connection' but it's hard to explain. He's very dry and very witty, people constantly mistake him for being cold or smug, but I never got that feeling. It was like I could see where his motivations came from, and he's always seemed to understand my motivations innately. My SO said he doesn't take to people very easily, but he took to me immediately.
The INTJ is getting married to an ENFJ, and their relationship is amazing to me. They're so different on the outset, he's very reserved and while he's very loving, he's not super touchy feely. She's very touchy feely, very open, and honestly, I've never met anyone in my life who is just so utterly lovable. She's just the sweetest, kindest person I've ever met. They're amazing together, and seem to compliment each other really well too. It's like she makes 'touchy feely' make sense for him, haha.
The profiling thing listed the ENFJ type as the INFJ's "Pal", and this also makes sense to me. From the first day I met her it was just one of the easiest friendships I've ever made. Sounds cliche, but like we already knew each other from way back or something. She's really different than me in terms of socializing and trusting people, but it really is like we're cut from the same cloth.
This has all been really fun for me, more than I would have thought. I still take the MBTI with a grain of salt, but wanted to know what you guys might have to say about certain type relationships since there are many of you who are hella more well versed in MBTI than I am.
What has been your experience with these type relationships? Any insights? Thoughts?