After years of practicing social graces, and to some level, mastering their employment when I consciously choose to do so, I can't seem to recalibrate my default setting.
A few days ago a very respectable lecturer flown in from out of state stopped his presentation mid-sentence to say, "you look like you have a lot of critiques . . . do we need to pause because I'm missing a gaping hole in my logic? You're making me nervous!"
He is definitely my superior (incidentally, also an NTJ), but my natural concentrating face was so unnerving that he had to pause and say something.
Do I continue to make a conscious effort to turn on the social graces for my 40 hour facetime, or can I just say, "I gave it my best effort, and I'll employ my learned skills when necessary, but I need to accept that this is me."