This is a common misconception about Fi, that's it's mainly about understanding self. The thing is, when examining the self, you're examining the inner landscape of a human. It's like, once you've dissected a frog, then you have a general understanding of what the inside of a frog looks like, and you can apply that general knowledge to all frogs. This is how Fi-doms grasp other people (and Ne particularly aids in imagining that which one has not experienced directly). This is also in-line with what Jung says about Fi appealing to the similarity of people internally, and how it is possible to communicate feeling to others & be understood, and by extension, I'd say able to understand others also.
Thx! Fi is still the hardest function for me to grasp. Though I didn't really believed completely in what I was writing myself, I merely tried to find a way how the test could be right. But I read through the texts about the test etc. and it seems to be rather a "how to behave like a leader" than actually like a EI-measurement-tool.
They say I only think in form of crunching numbers.....
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bold: agreed (most people take disagreement way too friggin seriously lol)
emotional intelligence is about comprehending what someone feels and why. Feeling (more Fe but also Fi) is attuned to what the other person is feeling, but Ne and Ni are the why. NFs have an almost psychic ability to read people's true motivations and intentions and why they're feeling how they are. that being said, SPs also seem to have fairly high emotional intelligence, but NFs trump all at communicating and solving emotional problems.
i don't know the function but i know i can definitely feel with people...sometimes my ne might be to blame for misunderstanding the feeling or thinking it's directed at me sometimes when it's not...but i can always feel what they're feeling....i wish i couldn't sometimes.
There can’t be any large-scale revolution until there’s a personal revolution, on an individual level. It’s got to happen inside first.
I don't see what's so bad about EXTJs supposedly having an high EQ......it's not necessarily wrong.
What I found funny was the indignation that two blatantly obvious blunt thinkers, would dare to impinge on what's viewed as Feeler turf!
But it really does have to do with people's interpretation of the definition of EQ. ExTJs are pretty good at cutting to the chase. We tend to be able to see through other people's shit and try to focus on the tasks at hand. We're also sensitive to manipulation, as in, part of the cutting to the chase.
Now, if EQ is viewed as smoothing feathers, my opinion is that it's not our preference. We can do it and some, unlike myself, are very good at it. But once again, it's not our preference since there are usually more efficient routes to getting things done.