Aside from my lil' sis (INTJ) and myself (INFJ), I assume Se for IN_Js can be a distraction sometimes when we are trying to be "within"(Ni) as we most inherently are. What brings us out (Se) depends largely on what we care to notice whether it strongly relates to how Fe or Te will want to react . This is to a certain point as noise is still noise .
I speak next of general, not of people close to us whom we choose to talk to. So, for example, the more personal a strangers' conversation is, perhaps, the more drawn to react an INFJ is, whether they care to listen if they like it or not....comment if they "feel" they must end w/e is wrong or ignorant of the others, even if it's NOT of a personal nature. I assume for INTJs that the more impersonal a conversation is, the more drawn. If personal and drawn they are :rolli: (<-their eyes ) , they observe and mock inwardly....or mock outwardly if they must butcher the ignorant stupidity or try to help people listen to reason via Te so there is quiet again for Ni ....That isn't to say they're all asses about it, not at all. If they care about you, they'll probably retort as nicely as they can until agitated if it gets them nowhere. If they loathe you upon introduction, initially, and longterm, oh my! :steam:, prepare for verbal destruction in the form of a slashingly succinct WMD. I shoot down others too but my sis'll do it when I feel it's rude after having cocked, loaded and I'm uncertain on pulling that trigger or detonating---up to a point. And she will say exactly what I thought too K, she's 7 years younger and maybe she hasn't restrained (resigned?) herself to society yet as well as older (even happier) INTJs have but she's more mature than most adults so....and I'll never allow them to get her!
I adore my INTJ cousins
I think you're an INTJ, does that sound like something similiar for you? Any INTJs correct me if you think me wrong.