Call me crazy, baby.
Exactly. The line of reasoning I regularly use is "What type of subjects is X sensitive to? And why? How do I frame the information in such a way that it will garner a neutral response?" There have even been a few times where I have accidentally triggered some T types (that I hear a long-winded rant). I just calmly try to reframe the information into neutral territory and then we continue the conversation just as before. I consider that relatively "logical" in a Fe sort of way. Many "logical" T types tend to struggle with this and end up escalating similar situations.
yes and i'm done explaining things to you as it leads to more questions.
The issue is that even though the function is called "Feeling", it isn't primarily about emotions. It is about value reasoning. It is about the manner in which people judge reality. All four judging function require reasoning tools, but they approach it differently and focus on different types of systems. All of the judging functions have to do with judging and evaluating and navigating a system. That system can be external, internal, based on subjective or objective data. Each individual has a different skill level, so it is possible for anyone to be irrational and struggle to process their emotions in an effective way, but that is only one portion of the whole of reality they are evaluating. Someone can be completely irrational with their own emotions, but still capable of value or logic based reasoning when interacting with another system. The main difference is that Thinkers are better at compartmentalizing their struggles to process emotions through logic. Some of the most remarkable social leaders who were incredibly skilled at applying Fe to change society, also struggled irrationally in their personal lives.
Let me first just say I appreciate you stating you aren't being sarcastic. I love this forum because I feel I can openly talk about emotions in general rather than having someone tease me about feeling anything deeply.
But definitely! It won't be easy to explain what I mean by logical framework since it feels rather intuitive (in the sense that understanding emotions comes natural for me, not Typology intuition) and so understanding my own emotions or other's is often done more fluidly rather than a conscious effort on my part. But, a large part of understanding them comes from years of understanding my own and what triggers me, causes me pain or stress, and learning how to work with them when they come. I understand them as very much a part of me and something to be valued and trusted rather than a nuisance or something to ignore. I feel that's a big reason that when strong emotions do come on, I choose to feel them deeply and to explore them as I'm experiencing them. This is most readily done through creative expression of any kind. But, it's that trust and value I place on emotion, as a guiding compass in my life, is most likely why I feel the way about them as I do now.
I know I haven't mentioned anything about the "logical framework" directly, but essentially, in placing worth in your own emotions and learning from others as well, you can start to understand them as something really very universal and true. A system you can then apply to people as a way to better understand their motivations and deeper desires. This is partially why I also prefer not to read any psychology books or external sources of what emotion means, as I have a rather personal understanding and "logic" behind them and trust my perception of them, than someone external to me.
I can go on more about it, but this can be a start
I'll need to come back to this later, but would like to give a breakdown of each judging function with further explanation for how each can function rationally like a system. This will make it easier for me to find the post for later....
I like where this is going.
