Aside: Oí. I haven't been here in a while. I seemed to have been away from this site long enough to divorce my brain from labeling everything in MBTI terms. However, I reacquainted myself with some MBTI in order to analyze a rut I've been in. Specifically, (something that applies to all NJs I think), I waver back and forth between two points of view...Whether it be work, love, money, and all the other stuff people just out of school suddenly become acquainted with (you think being an idealist is hard in school? HAHA! just wait!):
1. "This" is so arbitrary! Why do people/things/institutions/life have to be this way? It only makes sense on its own terms...like "just because". These unwritten and written "rules" are so stupid!
2. "It" may be arbitrary, but if this is what it takes to fit in, advance and be happy, then I guess it's worth it. What's the point in identifying the arbitrary if you aren't prepared to "boycott" (its just not an option in real life!). In fact, its sort of nice that if I just follow these rules (that everyone seems to follow without even knowing) things work out fine.
If I reside too long in #1, I eventually feel lonely and run back to #2. If I reside in #2 too long, I end up feeling superficial, shallow and ironically "once again" lonely.
This really put it into perspective for me:
So how do people who feel ***this way*** do anything??? I think its a Ni thing.Ni: See through the game: see the game as just one arbitrary game among many possible games that could be played. Detach yourself from the game, so you can see and evaluate the game itself from an outside perspective.