wow. i was dealing with pretty much this exact issue earlier tonight.
it's not just a Ni thing, and Fi isn't really an answer to it. or, at least, it's an answer, but as with most answers, it leads to another dilemma. for me, it's like this --
Fi: the set of rules/standards/"the way things are" is hurting everyone.
Ne: why is it this way? i see different ways.
Fi: yeah, it doesn't make any sense. it's arbitrary. i should rebel.
but the problem, then, is that you have to decide whether you should actually rebel, and risk harming yourself and those associated with you, in addition to possibly destroying what was an arbitrary but not terrible system. or, at least, it wasn't as bad as what it could be. rebelling would be a more Fi option, in my understanding. a more Ne option would be to find and utilize as many loopholes in the system as possible.
i find that my dilemma is balancing between these two. if i rebel too much, i end up hurting people and feeling lonely. if i exploit loopholes too much, i feel superficial: basically exactly the same as babylon candle's dilemma.
i notice that regardless of what i decide, i do tend to act on it in some way. sometimes i overact - with growing older i've gotten much better about overacting less - but that definitely alleviates some of my frustration. perhaps it would be helpful to sometimes simply choose a path and act on it? at least then you will have impacted things - sometimes change in and of itself is good, because it shakes old systems up. allows new perspectives to become clearer to everyone.
overall i suspect this is simply a human problem and balance will be the best answer.