I will say though that when it comes to emotional warfare and hitting people where it hurts, you don't want to mess with someone who can "see" you. And ENFPs can really "see" people and "get" interpersonal dynamics.
Luckily, ENFPs are pretty nice and cuddly and like using these gifts to make people feel better not worse, and in my own case, I am a big freakin' wuss. :rolli:
I also think T's can be very emotional, even "irrationally" so. I think if you are disconnected from your own emotions or lack much intrapersonal and interpersonal intelligence, you are more likely to explode and go into what I call 'pure asshole behavior' and get very heat up and emotional. This is contrasted with the stereotype in the OP of a "cold" and socially clueless T who just doesn't care or is unaware/uninterested in how they come off.
I know an irrationally emotional NT who frequently misreads social cues and gets deeply insulted for imagined sleights and then flips into pure asshole mode, screaming, name-calling, breaking things, threatening bodily harm, just going nuts. Then 10 minutes later act like nothing's happened, no apology, no explanation, not even a mention and the cycle continues. Sometimes there's not even a cue for the crazy behavior, he'll just launch into a tantrum out of nowhere. He's completely unaware that his actions have consequences and doesn't realize the emotional and social wreckage he's just caused and acts like everything should return to normal because he's no longer angry. The kicker is that otherwise he always talks about how something "doesn't make sense" and it's "not logical" and how "any idiot" could do this or that and how he's so much more intelligent than other people.
I honestly think he's emotionally retarded and I hope he never has children.