I guess you're right. But if I wait until it's solved, then it's already forgotten about.With friends like that, I suppose I'd end up telling them about my problem after I've solved it. That way, they don't have to worry about me, and I get to talk.
That defeats half the purpose of talking to them anyway, but maybe it's better than not sharing anything with them..
I rarely turn to her with problems but when I do, she tends to send me emails now that start off with a lot of sympathetic language and end up with options for me to try. I get those emails and skip over the first 2 paragraphs and read only what is applicable to me and what I need to do.
When she has problems and I send her emails, I start off with solution and problem solving and then end with a few lines about how brave or strong she is, and how she's not alone and blah blah blah. All that stuff is the truth, but if she needs to hear it, then I try to give it to her even though it feels unnatural to do so.