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    I'm an ENFP. I'm a sociable loner. One friend, but that's all. And I feel like I'm whithering....So, I ask, what type to you believe is best to live this loner lifestyle, because I don't think ENFPs are that type.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Deja Vu View Post
    I'm an ENFP. I'm a sociable loner. One friend, but that's all. And I feel like I'm whithering....So, I ask, what type to you believe is best to live this loner lifestyle, because I don't think ENFPs are that type.
    ISTP.

    Let me give you some advice, coming from someone who has been/is there too : think about your goals in life and work towards them NOW.

    My current goal is to live somewhere cool, have friends, go on adventures and start working towards being able to be creative and make my ideas tangible.

    So I'm doing it now. I don't even care much where I'm going. I'm gonna move to another city in my country till the end of October because I'm suffocated by my environment here. Because there is no point denying some of your needs. I will say, that loneliness isn't always bad for an ENFP. It builds character and depth and makes you think about what you are doing (and if you are a 7...it would make sense since you're supposed to integrate to 5 to be healthier). But yeah, go after what you want. What would like to have right now that you don't? Go after that.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sytpg View Post
    ISTP.

    Let me give you some advice, coming from someone who has been/is there too : think about your goals in life and work towards them NOW.

    My current goal is to live somewhere cool, have friends, go on adventures and start working towards being able to be creative and make my ideas tangible.

    So I'm doing it now. I don't even care much where I'm going. I'm gonna move to another city in my country till the end of October because I'm suffocated by my environment here. Because there is no point denying some of your needs. I will say, that loneliness isn't always bad for an ENFP. It builds character and depth and makes you think about what you are doing (and if you are a 7...it would make sense since you're supposed to integrate to 5 to be healthier). But yeah, go after what you want. What would like to have right now that you don't? Go after that.
    This. Working towards my goals (in a less tangible ENFP way) has kept me sane. Also, surrounding myself with inspiration and things that make me happy. Cliche, i know. But positive feedback via accomplishments and progress have ALWAYS worked well to distract me from my constant loneliness (since childhood). Which is why I enjoy meticulous and time consuming things. And thinking about nonsense, a lot.

    Deja Vu: At a certain point diversion becomes unhealthy and encourages more running. I'd advise you to go out and join something that you're interested in, book clubs, take classes at a community college, team sports etc., Just find something you like and you'll meet people you can get on with.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Deja Vu View Post
    I'm an ENFP. I'm a sociable loner. One friend, but that's all. And I feel like I'm whithering....So, I ask, what type to you believe is best to live this loner lifestyle, because I don't think ENFPs are that type.
    ITs. i think the ITPs are the most natural loners of all. They're the type that's more likely to sit at least five seats away from anyone else for no apparent reason.

    so... sociable loner, what's that? you're friendly with people but you don't make the jump from aquiantance to friend?

    i don't think it's healthy for anyone to be isolated for long periods of time, other people are the biggest source of joy in life (also the biggest source of pain).
    obviously some types can stand it a lot easier than others. the thing that bugs me about isolation is having no one to joke around with because i love making people laugh.

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    You do seem more ITP like actually.. you're kind of short with words on the net too (like in your jokes and such. They remind me of some ISTPs).

    That said, good luck. I'm a loner too. Although I have friends and can be sociable (I behave like an F, I guess. Not an ITP).

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    Quote Originally Posted by Edge View Post
    ITs. i think the ITPs are the most natural loners of all. They're the type that's more likely to sit at least five seats away from anyone else for no apparent reason.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Edge View Post
    so... sociable loner, what's that? you're friendly with people but you don't make the jump from aquiantance to friend?
    ^ For me it means, I don't feel the desire to jump from aquiantance to friend because I don't feel a 'real' connection. If you're one of those real friends and we're 'hanging out', I'm very sociable. I'm not social enough to keep friendships going. For example, if you write me on Facebook, call me, email me, txt me, I'll usually feel touched, but I won't reply 95% of the time. Sometimes I'll want to reply, but because I'm busy or not sure how to respond, I won't. That doesn't mean I don't care. I'm private and I'm not a small talker. I do this with family too, but it's more like 50% of time. There are rare friends and rare exceptions to this though. All friendships seem to fade away over time.

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    Same here. Indulge is what I do.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Deja Vu View Post
    I'm an ENFP. I'm a sociable loner. One friend, but that's all. And I feel like I'm whithering....So, I ask, what type to you believe is best to live this loner lifestyle, because I don't think ENFPs are that type.
    Yay, I'm one too! But anyways, I only know of one other loner and he's INTP.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Deja Vu View Post
    I'm an ENFP. I'm a sociable loner. One friend, but that's all. And I feel like I'm whithering....So, I ask, what type to you believe is best to live this loner lifestyle, because I don't think ENFPs are that type.
    I am an ESFJ and i have only 1 friend .. Don't get me wrong, i know a lot of people but i don't know how to turn them into friends ..

    It's a good job i like my own company, lol.
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