I'm two steps through the door and I immediately start making the rounds, making sure to say hello to everyone and pass greetings before I settle into a conversation on the sidelines. I don't drink or eat at parties, so all of my time is spent talking or joking around (or running around a kitchen island being chased by Canadians.)
I usually have my INTJ best friend as my wingman.
eNFJ 4w3 sx/so 468 tritype
EII-Fi subtype, Ethical/Empath, Delta/Beta
AIS Holland code
If I didn't know anyone at the party..gulp..I'd be really nervous and would be trying to figure out where to go, who to try to meet, and how to work my way into a conversation. I'd be really self-conscious the whole time, feeling like I stuck out because I was by myself and didn't know anyone. Even if I managed to mingle my way into a group, I'd be quiet most of the time. If I went with someone I knew, I'd pretty much stay with them - but then if they knew a bunch of people, I'd feel bad that I was being so clingy, and so then I'd probably try to make some effort chit-chatting with other people.
My savior would be some sort of activity - playing cards or darts, or a board game (as long as it's NOT charades or anything where I have to get up in front of people and sing/act! eek!!). I'd dive into that and be much more comfortable. And once I was doing that I'd have an easier time mellowing out and then chit-chatting with the other players.
[although if we're talking college-type parties, then I was inclined to just drown my uncomfortableness by getting drunk and dancing]
"...On and on and on and on he strode, far out over the sands, singing wildly to the sea, crying to greet the advent of the life that had cried to him." - James Joyce
walk in- find the bar- grab a strong drink and start chatting everyone up- especially the quiet people who don't look like they're having fun- continue hitting the bar- step outside for a smoke break and chat with the others out there- hit the bar again- dance with someone (gender doesn't matter)- play beer pong for a bit- dance back over to the bar- make rounds chatting with everyone again
repeat this set of actions until the party dies down- leave with the last few partiers to a bar- stay there until it closes talking about the evils of the world and what's wrong with our country- leave and find food- call a cab and find someone to share it with- go home and walk the dog and then crash
yep- that's about what you could expect from me at a party!
oh yeah- I forgot- interspersed in there occasional loud singing (badly)
Human beings make life so interesting. Do you know that in a universe so full of wonders, they have managed to invent boredom? -Terry Pratchett
walk in- find the bar- grab a strong drink and start chatting everyone up- especially the quiet people who don't look like they're having fun-
Originally Posted by PinkPiranha
I chat up the quiet people too.
This interests me. What's the attraction of chatting them up? I do it myself in a hostess capacity but otherwise I wouldn't go by that criterion when zeroing in on conversation targets at a party. What's in it for you?
Edit: Oh, and I do this:
Originally Posted by PinkPiranha
I'm two steps through the door and I immediately start making the rounds, making sure to say hello to everyone and pass greetings before I settle into a conversation on the sidelines.