There's intellectual leap-frogging as you say, and then there's what I desire and love most, which is...
The ability to get to know my partner, for us to get to know each other, really know each other, to reveal our true selves via peeling all the pleasantries and fear-based facades.
I've read somewhere that INTJs have a tendency to be very secretive, and to hold back, is this true? Why do you think that is?
P.S. I don't think he's accustomed to chilling out with intelligent chickas who are sexual freakas.