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    Senior Member DJAchtundvierzig's Avatar
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    Unhappy I need to know how to impress...

    I need to know how to impress the ISFJ and ENFJ, can anyone help me?

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    Impress them how? Work? Romance? Frienship? What is your end goal? What is your current relationship with them? We need some details here.
    "Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind. " - Dr. Seuss
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    What if you're speaking to a couple hundred people in an auditorium? Type is irrelevant. You need to learn how to deal with people.

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    Tell them "I asked an internet forum how to impress you and here's what they said..."
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    be yourself, and self-confident.

    that will impress anyone worth impressing.

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    Quote Originally Posted by skylights View Post
    be yourself, and self-confident.

    that will impress anyone worth impressing.
    Don't ISFJs think that INTPs have something wrong with them or something? I don't think that will work.

    I want to impress the ISFJ in a friendship/romantic/work way. We are currently friends and co-workers, but I want to be more than just friends.

    And I have found a way to impress the ENFJ, so no need for help there.

    But I would like to know how to impress the ISFJ, thank you.

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    Quote Originally Posted by DJAchtundvierzig View Post
    I want to impress the ISFJ in a friendship/romantic/work way. We are currently friends and co-workers, but I want to be more than just friends.
    The best way to impress anyone you're interested in is to bend your core essence to match what the other person wants, compromise your personal ideals, learn manipulative psychological tactics, and subconsciously lie to yourself and the other person about who you are. Do so without regard to the undue stress and exhaustion you place upon yourself by trying to put up a facade for the entire duration of your relationship, and, of course, any of the harsh potential and deeply personal consequences of those actions.

    Good luck!

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    Quote Originally Posted by DJAchtundvierzig View Post
    But I would like to know how to impress the ISFJ, thank you.
    Engage him/her in a conversation, possibly work related. Tell him/her in advance that you don't have much time because of [whatever reason]. Be competent and polite while showing a slight disinterest. Throw hints at things you've said or done which ISFJs usually find valuable - family related, for example. Do not appear to be boasting, present the story as if you'd expose a vulnerability to him/her. Don't break eye contact, but try to maintain an easy-going vibe. Ask for his/her help in a future project you're planning (independently) and make sure you keep some of the topics open-ended thus allowing him/her to come back to you if she feels like it. Treat your common acquaintances well and make sure he/she hears about it. Be helpful, be cool, do not invade his/her personal space, use casual body language. Show that you're always ready to walk away and that you have a stable place in your social circle. Make remarks about your current environment without trying hard to observe it, do not laugh at your own jokes. Speak slowly and with enthusiasm. Take note of, but disregard any possible personal attack directed at you.

    (credit goes to Venusian Arts)

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    [QUOTE=Litvyak;1266712]
    do not laugh at your own jokes.
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    That one is going to be a difficult one, hahaha.

    Thank you for all your help.
    Last edited by DJAchtundvierzig; 08-01-2010 at 10:51 AM. Reason: Just because

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    If being modest is key I screwed that up...crap.

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