Thanks Jock for the response, esp. as you've seen how I come across IRL.
I'm trying to get better with letting awkwardness just....be......rather than thinking it needs to somehow be "fixed", as soon as I recognize it. As, much can come out of seeing how awkwardness finally works itself out.
Hmmm, good point about "interaction style" which could explain why I got such commentary of ExFP [as ESFPs and ENFPs fall within that category].ENP for you, is pretty evident. F vs T for you is going to be hard to discern quickly partly because ENPs share interaction styles, and it takes a while to really see how you make personal decisions since it's an introverted process. However, I noticed that your focus when interacting is generally oriented to the particular processes and principles by which the topic works, not necessarily the personal issues involved. Your focus tends to be the system, not the person.
As for the bolded, very true. Whenever I aim to understand something, I need to see how it works as a system, as a whole, and the person is just one [notable] variable in that equation (usually in terms of the contribution of their own, unique perception). They're not THE equation.