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Reading PinkPiranha's blog about her INFJ father, and what a nightmare he can be made me realize that I really can't picture what an INFJ guy would be like - it seems to me one of the most quintessentially feminine types, and I don't know how a guy would cope with those tendencies in a society that wants him to be ESTx
Similarly, I've a friend with an ENTJ daughter who finds it extremely hard adjusting to a society that wants her to be a Feeler.
There obviously are Feeling men and Thinking women on this board and in the world generally. I've heard runvardh alluding to the difficulties he has being Fi dominant and yet living in a society that expects men to shut up and bottle up their feelings. I've also heard whatever mention that being a Thinking woman can sometimes have her labelled a 'bitch' or seen as 'too assertive'.
I've always been an ENTP - albeit that in years gone by I was a very shy and unconfident one that might've come across more like INTP. But I've lived in both genders. I've had years of people criticizing me and condemning me as a female for qualities I possessed which, now that the world sees me as male, I get little but praise or affection for. And vice versa!!
I know there is a huge double standard - everyone knows this. What I want though here, is to give Thinking women and Feeling men an opportunity to share their experiences, and also anyone else who is close to anyone of that description. Maybe you have some stories to tell too about how they find things difficult, or maybe you have some questions about how you could sympathize with them better, which could be answered here.
I know it's a bit close to Christmas and maybe people aren't up for an in-depth sorta thread... but if not we can always resurrect it in the New Year
Similarly, I've a friend with an ENTJ daughter who finds it extremely hard adjusting to a society that wants her to be a Feeler.
There obviously are Feeling men and Thinking women on this board and in the world generally. I've heard runvardh alluding to the difficulties he has being Fi dominant and yet living in a society that expects men to shut up and bottle up their feelings. I've also heard whatever mention that being a Thinking woman can sometimes have her labelled a 'bitch' or seen as 'too assertive'.
I've always been an ENTP - albeit that in years gone by I was a very shy and unconfident one that might've come across more like INTP. But I've lived in both genders. I've had years of people criticizing me and condemning me as a female for qualities I possessed which, now that the world sees me as male, I get little but praise or affection for. And vice versa!!
I know there is a huge double standard - everyone knows this. What I want though here, is to give Thinking women and Feeling men an opportunity to share their experiences, and also anyone else who is close to anyone of that description. Maybe you have some stories to tell too about how they find things difficult, or maybe you have some questions about how you could sympathize with them better, which could be answered here.
I know it's a bit close to Christmas and maybe people aren't up for an in-depth sorta thread... but if not we can always resurrect it in the New Year