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    One thing you really messed up... INFP's have Ne as their auxiliary, Fi is your auxiliary. If Fi were your tertiary, you'd be an IxTJ. If Ne were someone's inferior, they'd be an ISxJ. But your descriptions make sense otherwise.

    Anyway, mine:

    INFP

    We couldn't be more different. I don't understand how they think at all, but when I make the effort to communicate with them, they really do seem like nice people who try to do what they think is right first and foremost, even if I don't agree with them about what is right, or even understand how they came to their conclusions about what was right. I'm typically irritated by their tacit confidence that their belief is justified, even though they can't explain it. I want to be nice to them, because I feel and admire their depth (which often seems more than mine), but they have an element I feel repelled by, and they report a similar response to me. So many of the things they say bring out a side of me that reminds me of a disgruntled tech support person who's frustrated with users that can't understand what they're saying until they make it as simple and obvious as possible, and then have to put up that same user complaining that they were condescending, and I don't know why that is. At they same time, they make me feel like no matter what I do, I'm not as good a person as they are, like I'll never be as "real/human" as they are. I don't think it's intentional, but that's the effect.

    ENFJ

    We can communicate similarly on the surface, at least. They seem to have a lot of energy and zest for life, which enables them to do things I just don't have the energy for but would like to do. It seems like they're more concerned with appearances than I am, and are better at coming across well and responding to sudden, subtle changes in the atmosphere of the situation that I wouldn't even detect. But there's something a little off-putting about them that makes me feel like they want something from me that I don't really want to give, but that they're trying to convince me that I do want it... I constantly feel like I have to be vigilant to avoid being manipulated, because they're just "too perfect." This intensifies when I see them criticizing an INTP's behavior, and it makes me feel like they want to force everyone to live up to their ideal by slow, clever manipulation and distortion of facts in their favor. It usually results me trying to make excuses for the INTP (because INTP's don't seem to defend themselves at all against emotional criticism and let it hit them at full force internally whether it's justified or not, unless someone else defends them convincingly.)

    ISFJ

    We're similar on the surface, in that we both try to be nice but inconspicuous most of the time, and worry about other's safety and well-being frequently. We both seem to have a good ability to absorb/recall information that interest us. The main difference is that I seem to have a greater need to know why I'm doing something, and seem much spacier, absent-minded, and more impractical than an ISFJ. I don't know many ISFJ's, so I can't elaborate.

    INTJ

    They're very blunt, but I can tell that they're doing it out of a desire to help people as a whole in some way, and that they are really passionate about their ideas. They really seem to understand how to make things work effectively in general. They can always introduce a new perspective on things for me, although they can seem oblivious to the exact nature of a system's interconnections and just how/why it works (but somehow seem to make it work). Their passion can help me get motivated to pursue things that are important to me, when they express it. It's almost like they have some of what the INFP's do (that depth), but instead of forcing it on me without understanding where I'm "at," they just reveal it to me in a way I can accept it (and are better at explaining what/why they believe something). It's like the difference between someone trying to force a glass of murky water down your throat, and someone offering you a glass of clean, clear water. I don't know why it feels that way.

    That's how I respond to my "off-by-one" types.

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    There's probably a good reason why the "one letter" offs don't feel so close. It is because they are not... The key thing here is function order.

    Let's take as an example, INFP and ENFP, being one letter off your function.

    ENFP experiences the world through extraverted intuition, and this is also their dominant function. Introverted feelings sit behind rating this stuff, but take second place. So you live for your intuition, and everyone can see this.

    INFP experience the world through the same extraverted intuition, but it takes second place to their dominant intraverted feelings. The intuition is just a collector of ideas for the values and feelings to judge them. So the INFP lives for the feelings inside, but everyone sees the intuition on the outside.

    So, although there is only one letter difference, a completely different function is dominant. The dominant function has, as you might expect, a major impact on how a person "is".

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    Merged and moved to MBTI, Enneagram, and other personality matrices (sorry Cze )
    Relationships have normal ebbs and flows. They do not automatically get better and better when the participants learn more and more about each other. Instead, the participants have to work through the tensions of the relationship (the dialectic) while they learn and group themselves and a parties in a relationships. At times the relationships is very open and sharing. Other time, one or both parties to the relationship need their space, or have other concerns, and the relationship is less open. The theory posits that these cycles occur throughout the life of the relationship as the persons try to balance their needs for privacy and open relationship.
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    No, that's fine. I wrote a serious post! Whoo-hoo! I'm going to rub Edahn's nose in it in his 'who writes the best posts thread'.

    I should check out 'Other Psychology Topics' more often.

    And on a related note, I liked Athenian's in depth response like mine. :nods: And...I blame the interwebs for the functions mix up.

    And Geoff, yes, those 1 letters are deceptive! With that post I tried getting into socionics explanations starting with IEE (ENFP) and typing and yikes...I'm going to stick with MBTI for now.
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    My options...

    INTP
    ISFP
    ENFP
    INFJ


    I guess I relate to the INTP discriptions the most out of those, although I really don't relate to it much, even if I once tested as INTP.

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    Quote Originally Posted by deep rain View Post
    Which type that is one letter off from you do you feel closest and most similar/connected to, and which do you feel most distant from?
    I feel closest to INTJ. I feel furthest from ISFP.

    he one I feel absolutely nothing same with is ISFJ. It feels as though we live on the complete opposite of the spectrum of realms.
    Then surely that would make you an ENTP.

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    ENFJ is closest definitely and absolutely.
    ESTJ is the one most far away.

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    I feel closest to INTP and farthest from ENTJ, which is not surprising, considering all the functions involved.

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    Quote Originally Posted by LucrativeSid View Post
    I feel closest to INTP and farthest from ENTJ, which is not surprising, considering all the functions involved.
    That's interesting you say that. My sister, ENTJ- has told me that she feels closest to ENTPs/INTPs and ESTPs/ESTJs and INTPs/INTJs.

    The types she can superficially understand but whom she finds "draining" are ENFPs and ISFPs, the latter whom she has a hard time comprehending most of the time, imho, lol.

    Anyhow, enough about her. About me-

    I feel closest to ENTJs. I have a problem with ENTPs, mainly because they like to question what I ask them to do. However, I'm very similiar to my sister in the people we get on very well with. I'm not entirely convinced it's about personality type however, but more about communication styles. As an ESTJ and my sister ENTJ- we're very straightforward. We hate manipulative games in our personal relationships because we're both very good at discerning it in other aspects of our lives. I guess my philosophy has been, when you come home at the end of the day fighting and playing with the best of them, you want someone you can trust and be straightforward with you, and not make you think they are a total headcase who needs a shrink.

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